Amrita & Izi - A Worlds Worth Of Love

I really don't know where to start with this wedding. It was only the other night on August 22nd. So fresh in my mind. It is difficult to put into words how meaningful this wedding was for me. Not only is every wedding meaningful to me. These past brides I write about will never be forgotten. I guess because this was my first Indian/Jewish wedding. My husband is Jewish and we had a Jewish ceremony. We had the same elements during our ceremony. Could that be it. Not sure. But, something about this one really had me crying the entire weekend. Everyone knows that I am an easy crier. But, when I tell you the front of my dress had big bloppy tears all over it - trust me, this one struck a nerve. Kind of like when the Grinches heart grew three sizes too big and it burst at the end. Yeah, I was there. So, let's start at the beginning. Such a sweet, soft spoken couple. He from Turkey and she from India. There was a bit of an accent barrier and she spoke so quickly, I did have them repeat themselves - often. But, something about them. They would look at each other and giggle. Not flirty eyes, just shy eyes almost. It was very endearing. We met on several occasions to go over the details and every time I did, I could envision their wedding and it would be more and more clear that it was about just the two of them. Nothing showboat, just special. We always assist the bride & groom with their rehearsal and that is where I met their bridal party. People from the other side of the world. Here for Izi and Amrita. It was fantastic to learn about their cultures and hear all about where they met each other. I happened to look down and noticed Amritas beautiful Mendhi designs on her arms. I have never seen real Mendhi on a person, only photos or on TV. When she turned her hands over - I cried. It was so special. Obviously, she was treated like a princess because the amount that was on her hands, she would have had to sit there for hours. Who fed her, who helped her in the little girls room, etc. Just the fact that she was treated like a princess told me a lot about how this culture treats their brides - with absolute respect and adoration. What's more, Izi invited me to their Seder that night. I never go to the rehearsal dinner but something made me feel like part of the family. His family sang the blessings and we enjoyed a delicious meal melting both cultures in that small moment. The next night, I was invited to be a guest at Amritas Sangeet celebration. This was where I was a blubbering idiot. So, there is a stage with an oppulant bench for two. It had a lush backdrop of two indian towers in pink and gold. Before our bride made her entrance, groups of women would come in performing dances - announcing the brides arrival. Then, surrounded by her bridal party (who were holding a red cloth high above her head) they walked her to the stage. Yeah, like royalty - I was overcome and could barely see through the tears. I was so happy for her. Something about the amazing music being played and the way they walked - overtook me. It's those moments when I just get it. I understand why I do this. My husband even got it. I tried to show him a piece of what I do by asking him to accompany me to the Sangeet and he really understood that what I experience with every wedding is special. So, then later, after a delicious Indian meal, our groom arrives in his stoic turban! The crowd was cheering him and surrounding him - dancing for him. A true celebration of the couple. the next morning, I am exhausted, but, I have a big day ahead. And, it's raining. I keep thinking positively - it's New England and anything can happen, right? So, off to the brides home for hair and make-up. I expect Amrita to be lounging after a night of celebration but she's on the floor working on a slideshow. I think she had 5 hours of sleep but still looked fantastic. I, on the other hand, needed another large regular. Hair and make-up are going well and Amrita sits to start her beauty treatment and I am off to the hotel to check in with vendors. The Cambridge Marriott was working fantastically getting evrything done in time. Jen & Salem were my contact there and anything I needed to be handled, was handled already - love that! Unfortunately, it was still raining. My bride arrived a bit behind schedule (but arrived) and we began the Ketubah signing. Our groom was in one room and our bride in the other. Five signatures and photos later - we are walking to the ceremony. Working carefully to obscure the bride, we lined everyone into position and reminded them where to stand. Piano (played by Yuval - fantastic) starts and they process. Thirty minutes later - I swear it was a gunshot outside but no - it was the glass being stomped by my really proud groom! It was so loud!! A smiling couple headed to the rooftop garden for photos with the bridal party - yes, it stopped raining for just that amount of time to get them done - another miracle. The hitch here was that they were supposed too head over to the Charles River Bridge but timing was against us so we switched to plan B. Once photos were done, Amrita came to change into her Lehenga gown. Can I just say - way better than a wedding gown. So many details and a long time to put on. After dressing, she had her make-up touched up (even though she still looked beyond fab) and we head back down for introductions. Her pink and gold reception was dressed with pomander ball centerpiece highs and lows from Dogwood floral (which looked incredible). The gold chiavari chairs with pink sashes made the look complete while the walls were splashed with incredible colors and designs by CJC Event Lighting. The entrees were salmon or vegetarian to satisfy their multicultural guest list and lots of clean plates were made. A delicious cake, adorned with photos the bride provided of their travels (Montillios) was enjoyed by all! It was a tower of travel and decadence! But the best was watching them, on a large screen. Photos of their childhood and and family then photos of the two of them during their travels together. I was actually jealous of their travel, the love from their family, the way they were celebrated. I wished that our culture, celebrated and adored my brides & grooms the way these two were. We have a lot to learn about other cultures and how they treat each other and strangers like me. I was blessed to be a part of this wedding weekend. A stranger to the culture, a family member made, an evening never to be forgotten.

Michelle, My Belle

OK, so it is Michelle & Chris but my mind goes right back to that special father/daughter dance every time I see her name! This great party was held on August 14th at the historic Commanders Mansion in Watertown. Beautiful on location ceremony in the "orchard" at a perfect 78 degrees with sunshine! My bride was a stunner in her grecian style wedding gown - breathtaking. Might I just say now, that I always cry when I see my brides. There is something to say about a bride just about to walk down the aisle. They are quiet, nervously smiling and awkwardly walking with their escort. Michelle was laughing and soaking in the surprise of it all. We had decorated all of the white chiavari chairs in a plum colored sash so the entire scene was incredible! She and Chris spoke their own vows to each other - very special - then loud cheers and clapping! I was fortunate to be in the back orchard peering through the grapleaves to watch their first married kiss. An honor. A delicious glass of champagne and decadent HD's were served up by Eat Your Heart Out Catering which kept the crowd munching and laughing. Out to the tent where Orchids n Blooms worked their magic again with high and low arrangements accented by peacock feather plumes. We dressed five square tables in the plum with white chair sashes while the rest were dressed with white linen and plum chair sashes. The entire room beamed with excitement! Off to intros and the toasts! Our Best Man realized he forgot to ask all to raise a glass to our shining couple - just another reason to pour fresh champagne! After a delicious, nut free dinner, the guests were enchanted by a 9 foot table filled with delicious chocolate desserts and a fountain for dipping jars of cookies and treats. Outside, the crowd danced continuously to the incredible sounds of The Scooby Snax Band. Then came that special song. Michelle, My Belle. Proud Daddy, Mom looking on, holding her hands to her chest and beaming. Their little belle, now married woman. Always a cherished daughter. Where's my crying towel...

Jessica & Rui!! Like Boston Royalty!

What can I say about this couple? From the moment I met them back in 2008, I knew they would be fun. They bantered back and forth like a couple already married and had fantastic ideas for their wedding. Their wedding was held back on August 6th at the beautiful Boston Harbor Hotel. All was in place for a spectacular event complete with rich navy linens with lime green accents from the floating white orchids, walls splashed with lush color and a really fun photo booth. The night before, I had a bad feeling that something was going to be up with the hairdresser as she was a bit salty to me both times I spoke to her. But then on the day of - I was optimistic and planned to kill her with kindness. About a half hour after I arrived at the hotel, I just wanted to kill her. She called Jess, 30 minutes before she was to start 7 heads of hair and cancelled. She did have a good reason but not sure if it was true. I will give her the benefit of the doubt but she could have at least tried to get a replacement. What ev. So now it's on. I am now supposed to get hair started in 20 minutes without a stylist. I went to the concierge - please tell me you have a salon on site. Nope. So, where is the closest salon - three blocks away. I am walking and talking to the salon on the phone begging for help. Nope - booked. OK, I am still walking and calling the one person I know can help me. Cheryl Greene. She does a lot of my weddings and on this day, I knew she was working at her home salon but had clients coming - grrrrrr. But! She says, call my friend Jimmy at Delaria Salon over on Commonwealth. I do, but get the other Boston location from 411 and tell the DM my tale of woe. She tells me she will call me right back. I start walking back to the hotel. Tick. Tock. Tick. Tock. I reach the front door. Ring - "We can do it but they need to come to the salon" - NO PROBLEM!!! But wait, we have make-up coming too! Can we use a couple of chairs for the make-up girls - "SURE"! Oh, my god Becky. Saved. So I make it up to the bridal suite and call the front desk to set up cabs to bring the girls over for 12:30. My bride walks into the suite - so calm (I heard later she sets quiet when she is freaking out - justified). I tell her all the good news and she sighs and says - ok. I knew she was bummed. It's not the way it should be - but, sometimes these things happen and it all gets worked out. And, within 15 minutes of the brides call - situation averted and we are back on schedule. Now, for the record, this miracle would not have happened if we were in the boondocks on a Saturday. This was a Friday in Boston and they pulled in girls from other Delaria salons that were available to come to Summer Street. Pure luck on my part but incredible service on Delarias end. OK, so forget about the bad stuff - the rest of the day went awesome! Hair and make-up done with 30 minutes extra on the clock! The room is gorgeous, they have a beautiful ceremony - only glich was the ring bearer didn't want to hold the pillow - he only wanted the goldfish crackers. Buy, hey, I bet that picture will make them laugh later on and there wasn't a screaming ring bearer whipping a pillow around. Post ceremony they enjoyed photos in the courtyard where I think the entire guest list was watching instead of up in the rotunda eating unbelieveable HD's and having cocktails. That's ok too! On the ocean - beautiful couple - way better idea. After cocktails, the guests got caught up in the awesome photo booth (NH Photo Fun Booth). This was so much fun - but, since I photograph terribly I just had to keep trying it (mmm hmmm). The dancey dance in the reception was awesome, plus a great song sung by the DJ Corey (MCO Productions)! My gorgeous bride changed into her Chinese dress - a red stunner - and went back out to dance some more. My groom walked around like royalty and he really deserved it! They worked so hard to be sure this wedding was everything they'd dreamed of - and they achieved it. From back in 2008, when it was just a dream until 2010, a beautiful reality.

The Ames & The Woodward

So, some of you may know that I am a full time Mom and Event Planner in one. The Mom part can be a tad boring so it's always fun to escape to Boston and check out awesome places. When Amanda Barbuto from The Morgan Hotel Group asked me to come out to The Ames Hotel, I thought, excellent - trot, trot to Boston! So, Garmin gets me to the State House but, I missed the front door of The Ames because they do not have a neon sign shouting "THIS IS THE AMES!!!". Hmmm, a bit mysterious. While circling City Hall, I call in to the front desk for direction and when I got back around front - a spot out was cleared for me to pull right in. I walk through the fantastic front entry into the contemporary vista of a lobby. Hanging artwork and bright colors - so different than the typical hotel lobbys I have grown accustomed to. I check in at the desk to annouce my arrival and head over to the Woodward Bar when I am greeted by the hostess - by name. Ok, a bit creepy but really, really cool. I was feeling that this place was only for me and they were my staff. Unusual and me likey. So, I pass straight through the Woodward because I see this incredible garden patio in the middle of the hustle and bustle of the Fanuel Hall tourist crowd - awesome, people watching - my favorite!!! Amanda greets me and we start out in the lobby where I find out that the original owner is from my home town of Easton - where he had his summer home and a shovel factory. A neat historic connection! We tour the lobby and I find a cool mix of original mosaic tile and an electric foil mobile style artwork hovering above us. Inside the Woodward Tavern we pass a great display of artifacts and modern art as we walk to the second floor. With its dark banquettes and white accents - the room is perfect for intimate events - rehearsal dinners, private parties and small wedding receptions for those who think outside the box. Every window has a Boston view with a mix of history and modern architecture. We head over to the check out the rooms and that's when I had to break out my cell for photos. The rooms are WAY different from the hotel rooms I am used to seeing. No poly bed linens here. Platform beds, minimalist but practical and totally cool accents. I have never seen such a mini bar stocked with Red Bull, jelly beans and even a sensual kit! I can't even say enough about the penthouse - full living room, dining area and bedroom with peek-a-boo shower! I can't even tell you everything - cool lighting tricks in the walls, leather padded elevator, awesome things to just look at (which I love to do). This place was defintely too much! My thought is, The Ames & The Woodward are absolutely perfect for: a small wedding (under 60) with out-of-town guests who are looking for a ceremony within walking distance of everything and in the middle of it all. On top of that - the food and beverage minimum is AFFORDABLE - yup. Once again, I wish I were getting married but alas, been there, done that. So, Please, love, come find me! I have the perfect place for you!! Check it out!

Jersey Girls Do It Better

Singing Bon Jovi's "Livin' on a Prayer" was always a fun ritual my girlfriends and I had. At the top of our lungs, windows down, hair like Sunday popovers - high and crisp. We'd drive around in one of our "beatahs" with jury-rigged speaker systems cut into the back dash. Our mixed tapes clicking along in the stereo dangling by our knees up front. The smell of Aqua-Net and cigarettes and maybe even a couple fringe leather jackets to match our boots. Ahhhh, memories of my teen years. Cut to June 25th 2010 - I snap out of my flashback, now watching my bride Kristy, surrounded by her nine New Jersey besties, screaming out

"Cuz, it doesn't make a difference
if we make it or not.
We've got each other
and that's a lot
for love, we'll give it a shot! WOA-OHHH."

You know the rest. I missed it and loved it all at once. But, for this wedding, the dancefloor was the spotlight of Kristy and Adams wedding. From the very beginning, I was told that this was a dancing crowd. Yes, we did chat about all kinds of other things: colors, numbers, locations and timelines but it always came back to family, friends and dancing. My day started at the 4 Points Sheraton in Norwood at 8:30 a.m. I don't know how we managed to get 11 heads of hair and 6 faces of makeup done, but, Marc and Sarah worked to beauty perfection. Once gowned & dapper, my bridal party headed out for the reveal and photos (which added precious time). Kristy and I walked together to the secret waterfall at the hotel. She was speaking quickly and full of thought. I remember telling her to take a deep breath, that her best friend is just over the hill. That everything will be ok. We got Kristy into position with Adams back to her. Photographers, Val McCormick, and her assistant Alicia captured all of the perfect angles and more importantly, when Adam turned to see his bride - we had a blushing groom! He looked adorable while blushing and, of course, I tear up. It couldn't be helped! Kristy was absolutely glam perfect! I cannot wait to hear the compliments Videog David Bettencourt and his assistant Jeff were able to capture on the mic! After a lux trip on their limo bus from Boston Limo we arrived at Borderland State Park for a brief photo shoot and then over to The Saphire Estate in Sharon MA. Our Bride wanted to keep some magic, so, they separated for a bit and drank Champagne and giggled while the groom and his boys remained cool in the A/C. We greeted Father Lenny Nelson and got ready to start the line up while the Saphire Event Manager, Noelle Schiller and owner, John Saphire set the scene to perfection. An elegant beach theme (a nod to the Jersey Shore) was set by florists, Erica & Scott Jones of Orchids 'n Blooms. Lush hydrangea, tiny sea shells and rich sea glass twinkling along with the glowing candles dazzled the reception room. Their DJ, Eric Poss, set the ceremony and reception locations for music and was ready to begin the processional. We were all ready. Over the bridge they went and a half hour later, they came back again - this time with tear tracks and smiles! Married!! More photos, cigars, Sangria, first dance, Mother & Father dances, photos by the water, Champagne, delicious dinner, hugs, kisses, a few more photos and Woa-OH! Livin' on a Prayer!!! This is where they always wanted to be - right here - in this moment. Family, Friends & Dancing. Perfect.

Brittany & Joe's Wedding!!

I am so excited to chat about Britt & Joe's wedding finally!! It all started with a weather watch as usual! But, I was especially worried with a tent involved. It was supposed to be sunny & 77 (perfect in my book) but overnight it turned south and thunderstorms were to plague the day. I packed three golf umbrellas and my rubber boots for set up and headed out to Boston. Upon arrival, I was thrilled that there were "clear" skies but, it was 8:30 a.m. and we had a long way to go. I met the hair (Maura Keppel) and make-up (Jillian Harwich) team in the lobby and made our way up to the girls. All so excited but, still thinking about the weather. After coordinating the swapping of girls in the salon chair, I headed over to The Green Turtle (a floating B & B) to drop off their honeymoon bags and do a walk through with the groom. I was so excited for them because this place was cool. I have to admit with the movement of the boat, I didn't think it would be so great after a night of drinking, but, the next morning I heard how soothing it was, "so relaxing". At 1 PM, I headed over to The Commandants house to meet Docent, Kirsten (Lianna to arrive later) to get my day "started". Shelby & Linsday (my trusty assistants) were already there - ready to go set up. We were quickly followed over by the Bride & her maids. There was some photography going on but honestly, I couldn't wait for the planned reveal on the front steps. This was the first reveal I had ever witnessed and I must say, this was probably the best idea because I always thought cocktail photos take away from your wedding experience. Joe arrived to the front steps with his groomsmen and after a very special reveal, the entire party headed out to the Charlestown Navy Yard for photos with photog's Michael Keegan, Chrissy Dahlstrom & Brian Malloy (can't wait to see those!). Fast forward to ceremony time, all is set & ready and for a minute - I can't find Dad! He was located under the ceremony tent chatting up guests! I love that at weddings, you just haven't seen some people in years and it is the best time to say Hi & catch up! But, it was "time" and I hated to break him away. Ok, so Dad's in line - cue the music. Now, let me back up a bit. Shelby had received a call that there was a tornado watch in effect. The groomsmen were getting calls as well - and we were watching the skies. I went out to give the thumbs up to the JP (Justice Tom Welch) and there were big bloppy raindrops - not enough to ruin photos with a big dopey golf umbrella - but drops none the less. I still said nothing about rain (or a tornado for that matter) to Britt. Imagine thinking of a twister all through your ceremony!! So, the entire bridal party heads down and it's a bit dark - I am worried - but, it is still NOT raining. I look up at the DJ's stationed above the ceremony on the verandah to cue Britts processional. Now here is where it all turns into a slow motion dream-like moment. I cue the music and "Come Away With Me" by Norah Jones starts to play. I look over at the ceremony tent to my left to be sure all are looking our way - I look to my right to be sure Britt is ready to go. I look up at the sky to the right of the DJ and no kidding - the clouds instantly parted (think Simpsons) and the sun blared on the front of the ceremony tent!! I grabbed my chest, my jaw dropped and I twisted my head to Britt and was mouthing "THE SUN JUST CAME OUT!!!". I could not believe it and still get chills when I tell others about it. So, I'm all choked up, starting to get teary and she walks, looking stunning and just thrilled!! After the winebox and a loud WOOOOOOOOOH!! - they sealed their vows with a kiss! What a great ceremony - but it doesn't end there! All headed into the cocktail reception inside the beautiful Commandants House enjoying great HD's & Prosecco - YUM! Oh, this is the point where Shelby finally found my missing camera and shot off a few pics of the reception -which looked fantastic!! Britt chose her colors carefully and it all came together beautifully! The flowers (designed by Orchid's n Blooms) were so soft and plush - perfect for a hot spring night. The bouquets matching the blue & red flowers on the front walkway - so vibrant! We got the BP lined up and it was then we let Britt know about the tornados and she had to laugh! It's always better to tell the bad news once you have corrected it - or after "it" doesn't happen!! DJ Michael O'Neil & his assistant Steve Coveney from MCO Productions introduced the excited bridal party (lot's of WOOOOO-ing going on!) and they took their seats for toasts. Dad, stole the show and probably thanked each and every guest by name until Britt's Mom started chanting "Britt & Joe!, Britt & Joe!, Britt & Joe!" The rest of the evening was spent dining on delicious morsels from Tastings Catering. Sue, of course, directing the staff to timed perfection. Dancy, dancy, dancy dance! We ALL danced that night - super fun!! We don't normally dance with the guests at weddings, but, let's just say we had a fan club and lots of prodding. At the end of the evening, Britt & Joe treated their guests to a harbor cruise around Boston Harbor and I was so thankful it wasn't the stormy three hour Gilligan's tour that I had imagined! A wonderful evening for two wonderful people. An absolutely great start to my 2010 wedding season! Can't wait to do it again in two weeks for Kristy and Adam. And, yes, I am watching the weather reports as we speak hahaaha!

The Skinny

I met with two of my brides this week and a third a couple of weeks ago and I noticed a three-peat. All were so thin. Not sickly thin, but much thinner than the last time I saw them. I have to ask if they are OK, make sure they are eating and not stressed out. If I can take some things off their mental to-do list and such. We chat about what they need to get done and resolve a bunch of issues. All say they are not doing anything differently i.e.: started jogging, have a sudden aversion to food, ate a tape worm, etc.. So, I thought about when I was getting re-married and the issues I had with my body. Right off the bat, I though of the doughy bread-baking arms that I had (and still have) and that I had a belly pooch. I admit, I look at my photos from the wedding now and think how thin I was and wish I was that thin again. I have spoken to some of my brides after their wedding and found that they are all disgusted by all of the weight they have gained since the wedding. Really, they look like they did when we did our first consultation. I wonder if realize their post-wedding body is the way their fiance saw them before the wedding (and he still put a ring on it). He loves you just the way you are. Yes, you will have your svelte bride body in photos forever but, don't go crazy love. I guess if you are not at a healthy weight and you want to tighten up - but, you don't have to go Kate and be a stick. Don't get me wrong, my girls are healthy but some brides to be will go way overboard. Put the shoe on the other foot. Maybe he likes those curves - every one of them. What if he lost all of his muscles before the wedding? Yeah, you love his personality and he's a great guy 'n all but...you kinda liked those muscles and maybe after the wedding you can help him get them back. Right?

My first time

Well, my first bridal event was something to learn from, for sure. I've wanted to do a show for a while but was always a bit timid. I try not to be a timid person but my mind sometimes travels back to seventh grade - you know that feeling, right? This was defintely one of those moments! Will I know the answers to the questions people ask me? Will I be able to help them with tough issues? It turns out - yeah - I do know what I am talking about. And, yes, I do help people sort out crappy tangled up situations. So, because of that, I am really glad I made the plunge. And, as with any new "thing" that I decide to try, I just have to stick my neck out and take that step. I don't have to be the most popular, have tons of awards, be super snobby or the most expensive. I just need to be able to help. And, well, I do that. Very well.

Ball of Yarn

I have met a few new brides to be over the past few weeks and love listening to all of their ideas. What always strikes me is their lack of confidence with those ideas. When I say I love it, I really mean it. I like to hear their color choices, what their themes are and what their girls gowns will look like. She shyly tells me about her bright red shoes or ceremony vows and even what style of music they like. I'm not quite sure what they think I will say, but they seem to look at me as if I am going to swat them. I am sure their family or friends have given them "the look". But, I have always said, this is the first event you are hosting as a married couple. It should be about you and what you love. Who cares if you both have a private joke about a gorilla that you would like to include somewhere on your invitations. Or, that he proposed on a cruise so you want "ship in a bottle" favors. What if you wanted red and green linens in July? I don't care. I do care that they arrive on time and that I have enough staff to get it set up in time. But, no matter what you want, it's your day honey - lift your head up, stick your chest out and be proud that you have ordered that chocolate Easter bunny wedding cake. And, I'll make sure you love every morsel of it!

Awww.

I know this couple who have been together for years and years. They actually live together now. She did one of those Facebook quizzes – “When will you get married?”. The answer startled me when I read her results –it said “never”. I know that her boyfriend is like the milk to her chocolate cake. They love to do awesome things together – the same things. I almost felt like I had to defend her from this mean robot behind the screen – what do you mean NEVER!! He really loves her!!
Then my little feminist came out and I thought “well, she really doesn’t need to get married – she has a great job, really fun life with a really great guy so who cares about a certificate”. I made a response comment – “a piece of paper in a town hall drawer would not change your life in the least so don’t worry”. She replied back – “it still would be nice to hear it though”. Even my inner feminist melted. I was lucky, I was asked to be married twice and it is a nice feeling to know that someone wants to be with only you for the rest of your lives. That was a heavy heart.
It is true, women today are very unlike women of the old days. We no longer need to marry for the financial security because most of us are independent, educated and make our own money. Most jobs have great benefits such as health insurance and retirement plans so that isn’t the draw. It’s not even necessary to be married to have children – that stigma is gone as well. So, I wondered, why else did people get married – family mergers? Maybe, but, I haven’t heard of that lately – unless, of course, your name is Trump or Kennedy. So, if not for security, not for chastity and not for power – in 2010, what is the reason we are still getting married. Could it truly be that we are marrying – for love? I hope so. I really, really hope so.

Feel like a woman again...

You saw that hot bra and undie set and thought, "ooh, so cute! When will I ever wear that?" or "it will be on the floor in two seconds and I don't want to waste the money". What if that hot bra and undie set could be around forever and actually enjoyed long after it hit the floor. What if your man had photos of you, being beautiful in your own way, any time of the day or night. The way he fell in love with you. Over and over again, even after the babies and bad hair days. If you want that, I can only say this - I met Shannon Michelle today. Shannon Michelle owns Couture Boudoir in Boston. We chatted like old girlfriends in a Barnes & Nobles. I flipped through the most beautiful fashion boudoir albums. Women looking like women - not trash. And real women, moms, brides to be, people you know - looking like they were photographed for Esquire or Maxim. True magazine quality photos. I loved the album so much I am seriously considering doing a shoot to celebrate my 40th birthday. I would totally enjoy the hair and make-up team, the luncheon, the pampering. Capturing my beauty before it hits the floor where no amount of Botox could save me - ew, I know! Check her out for yourself @ www.shannon-michelle.com. The bedroom books are to die for - especially if you are one of those chicks who LOVES fashion. This is it. Do it for you, do it for him, just do it.

Guess what!!

OK - I can jump on this trend because I LOVE IT!!! I was out with Kristy getting an after lunch treat at Guarino's bakery (we both love whipped cream frosting) but, we came out with the awesomist idea - a really crazy wedding cake. We all love the Ace of Cake and those whimsy cakes with polka dots and jewelry but this is a new area where brides are bringing in their "couple" personalities. I know this is usually done with the grooms cakes but why not do it with your main showcase! Because Kristy is from New Jersey, she thought a Jersey Shore cake would be so fun. We were going to include the bridges and the fountain with columns supporting the cake - all with bathing suit clad bridal party! I know the bridges, fountains and people are WAY old school - that was the whole point! She knew it would make people laugh. She is all about fun and not being so serious about her big day! Not sure if her fiance will go for it or how it will come out but the point is - as I have always said - this is the first event you are hosting as a married couple. It should be all about you and what you love! So, show off "all about you" with your cake! It's only gonna get carved up anyway - enjoy it while you can! I KNOW - it's your wedding cake - it doesn't mean you can't have fun!!

Me First!

I love to give you all tips that you won't or may not find in your pretty planning books. There are certain things that we just know from experience and seem totally unrelated to your wedding. This issue has come up recently and I was called in to help resolve it. One of my brides had decided to book a local restaurant for her rehearsal dinner. She ordered a menu to look over but set it aside as her wedding is a few months away. She did nothing wrong really but when I inquired about her plans, she asked if I could assist with creating a custom menu wih the restaurant. My first question to the restaurant was - is the room still available for X date. Apparently, the room had been booked for months already and not by my client. I felt terrible for her because this was the place she and her fiance had chosen. The problem is, her wedding is in June which is a very busy month for events. There are, of course, weddings, graduation parties and for some reason - lots of Bachelorette parties. So your 40 guest rehearsal dinner has to compete with these big life events - especially on a Thursday or Friday night. Why? Because of the economy, people are trying to save a buck any way they can. Most venues, as you know, discount for week nights. The same happens in May - you have a lot of proms and large groups of kids taking over the restaurant function room. This is why you need to book your limo's and tuxes early if you wedding is in May or June as well. There are lots of things to consider during these months. Wedding planners know what to do. We make sure the bases are covered - even though it may seem as common as buying a gallon of milk - sometimes, theres a rush and you don't want to get stuck with the skim.

It's Official

Well, I have finally done it - I am doing a bridal show. I've wanted to do it for so long and it's finally coming to fruition. I don't like those bridal expo scenes - I feel like the lawyer in the emergency room. But, I found a person that is willing to keep it to one theme and to keep it intimate. Being a smaller venue (as in - not a ballroom), the bride will be able to chat with vendors without fighting through a crowd. So, it's The Bridal Spa & Gown Affair at Maria of Italy in Plymouth, Ma and I am wicked excited!! The date is May 12th from 6 - 9 pm. The first floor will have mini manis/pedis, mini massages, hair demonstrations, lingerie, DJ etc. Very fun and bachelorette party-ish. Upstairs, we have bridal gowns, bridal jewelry and me. I can't wait to host this event and chat with brides about their weddings! I hope to see you there!

Goodness!

Girl, it has been a busy month! I have met some great new brides and have been attending some fun bridal events. Last Sunday, I went to the Bridal Faire at the Commanders Mansion in Watertown. I worked the venue last summer but we didn't have access to the entire mansion. This time, I got to see the entire beauty! There was a groom speaking about his own wedding that had occured a few months prior. He explained that they used the entire space. He mentioned that they created interest in each room so that the guests would actually tour the mansion without realizing it. That is such a fantastic idea. I have the pleasure of working the CM in August for Michelle & Chris and we are actually creating a dessert buffet in the mansion to bring guests back inside. We felt that after cocktail hour, the group moves to the tent and the mansion (which is rented for a hefty sum) is technically only used for that hour. Why not make sure that it is used as much as possible. If you book a mansion for your venue, make sure you use the space to its fullest. Create a dessert room or a photo guest book room for your guests. Why not display family wedding photos on the mantles or tables throughout. This is the perfect opportunity to create the feeling that it is your home. Don't forget to display your favors by the front door!

The Saphire Estate

Do you remember the old Saphire Manor in Sharon? You probably had a prom there if you lived in the Sharon/Stoughton/Easton area. It used to be so dark and gloomy and who could forget the crazy ugly mural over the shipwreck bar. Things have changed my friends. I saw the recently re-done venue a couple of years ago and was pleasantly surprised. It was nice to see the "after" but its still fun to remember the "before"! Tonight, I was invited to attend the tasting for Kristy and Adam at the Saphire Estate - did you notice the new name too? I have to say, I think everything including the menu has been done over. The food was excellent. The last time I had eaten there was at a wedding of a co-workers daughter. We had the baked stuffed chicken. Need I say more. This time, we were able to sample everything from gazpacho to whoopie pies - and it was all delicious. Things certainly have changed over there - maybe it's time for you to take a second look too.

Got Ring??

Funny, when my now husband and I were dating, Valentines Day was "THE DAY" to get engaged. Something about the expression of love really set the tone. Dinner, roses, Champagne bubbling in my glass - I just knew it would be then that I would get engaged. But, then there was Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, etc., etc. If you are one of those girls that have been waiting years for that ring - and now you've got it - what are you gonna do next! The first thing I did was get my manicure. I knew I'd be showing that baby off everywhere I went. I also had it cleaned about 4 times before the weekend hit. Now, after ten years of marriage - my rings is nice and dirty! But, I still remember. Staring at my hand in the morning mirror, watching the little rainbows against the car door, the 2 pm light show in my office at work, friends wanting to try it on. The excitement of hearing that "oooh, he did a god job!". I loved every minute of it. So, If you are a Valentine Fiance - I hope you enjoy it too. But, only for a little while - planning your wedding is way too fun to wait too long!

Another one....

I just heard about another venue closing - Cyprian Keys Country Club in Boylston, MA. They are trying to get financing to re-open but this only compounds my previous advice to GET WEDDING INSURANCE!! It really is worth it especially if you hear of a closing. The girl on the news was solidly booked with her wedding plans at Cyprian. She got wind of the closing from her officiant and tried to cancel her reception the next day. Can you believe they told her she would have to forfeit $1500 of her 2K deposit. She agreed because she had no choice! They officially announced their closing three days later. What arrogance!! That is unreal! I will say it again, your planner can rebound on this tragedy very quickly and re-book you at another available location - but you will need the insurance re-imbursement to lay down another deposit. Unless, of course, you are one of those rich girls that can just lay it all out again. Yeah, lets go insurance hunting.

A Gift

Having been married twice, I completely understand a Bride's need for an event coordinator. I happen to do it on a daily basis now, but at the time, I didn't know who (or not) to call when it came to the vendors I needed. My first wedding, I researched all of the vendors and the second - I went with the package deal - hey, I was busy! I made a lot of mistakes and wasted a lot of money - but the worst was that I didn't have anyone watching out for me! I know that everytime I see the cake knife the venue gave me - with the other wedding couples names on it - I made some mistakes. It is a remider of what minor things can go wrong at a wedding. But, I also know everyone has a budget and it is a costly service that some would consider a luxury. As far as that point goes, I don't feel that it is a luxury anymore but more of a necessity. But, again, I understand - as I paid for those two wedding myself and carefully budgeted each paycheck for a year. Because of those budgets, I have always thought that it would be a great gift to give to a bride whether by a family member or a truly special one from her groom. But, today, I was contacted by a Maid of Honor requesting info for her friend. She wanted to gift my services to her friend whose father is currently in hospice. Having lost my own father, my heart sunk. If I can think of any other time to book planner services, it would be then. A planner is going to free up your time - prescious time that can be spent with loved ones while in hospice. Even more true, a planner can work fast and produce a wedding within a very short period of time. This is the case for military brides as well. We know that you have so little time and it may seem overwhelming. With a planner - we know the right vendor to call for your buget, we know how to negotiate appropriate discounts, and what needs to be accomplished in a short period of time. The only way we differ from a bride - the planning is not an emotional decision. We are focused on your needs and what works best for your event. Especially, if you need handicap access or an on site nurse. Even though I know you need us, I also know that it may not be in your wedding budget to hire us. But, the gift of a wedding coordinator - is truly priceless.

An Honor...

Well, I must say that 2010 has started off beautifully! I have been so busy researching and scheduling appointments that I have neglected my blog. Sorry!! I am meeting some great vendors for this season and cannot wait to see what they produce. I am also super excited about the brides that we have booked this year. They are all real gals with great ideas for a super fun receptions and after parties to boot!! BUT, even more exciting was the message that hit me today from Weddingwire.com. We actually did it again!! We won the Brides Choice Award for 2010 for excellence in service! I couldn't have done it without my past brides. Every wedding, large or small, allowed me to grow as a planner in such a positive way. I am thrilled to begin our fourth season with Shelby by my side (and one more fresh face to be announced soon I hope). We are currently looking for another star to help me produce perfection! I am a stickler so it will be a tough decision but we have some great candidates! I am so excited for this year to unfold. We have lots of dates available. Don't forget, we only book one wedding per weekend so book early and actually enjoy your engagement (please). You deserve it Lovies!