The Skinny

I met with two of my brides this week and a third a couple of weeks ago and I noticed a three-peat. All were so thin. Not sickly thin, but much thinner than the last time I saw them. I have to ask if they are OK, make sure they are eating and not stressed out. If I can take some things off their mental to-do list and such. We chat about what they need to get done and resolve a bunch of issues. All say they are not doing anything differently i.e.: started jogging, have a sudden aversion to food, ate a tape worm, etc.. So, I thought about when I was getting re-married and the issues I had with my body. Right off the bat, I though of the doughy bread-baking arms that I had (and still have) and that I had a belly pooch. I admit, I look at my photos from the wedding now and think how thin I was and wish I was that thin again. I have spoken to some of my brides after their wedding and found that they are all disgusted by all of the weight they have gained since the wedding. Really, they look like they did when we did our first consultation. I wonder if realize their post-wedding body is the way their fiance saw them before the wedding (and he still put a ring on it). He loves you just the way you are. Yes, you will have your svelte bride body in photos forever but, don't go crazy love. I guess if you are not at a healthy weight and you want to tighten up - but, you don't have to go Kate and be a stick. Don't get me wrong, my girls are healthy but some brides to be will go way overboard. Put the shoe on the other foot. Maybe he likes those curves - every one of them. What if he lost all of his muscles before the wedding? Yeah, you love his personality and he's a great guy 'n all but...you kinda liked those muscles and maybe after the wedding you can help him get them back. Right?

My first time

Well, my first bridal event was something to learn from, for sure. I've wanted to do a show for a while but was always a bit timid. I try not to be a timid person but my mind sometimes travels back to seventh grade - you know that feeling, right? This was defintely one of those moments! Will I know the answers to the questions people ask me? Will I be able to help them with tough issues? It turns out - yeah - I do know what I am talking about. And, yes, I do help people sort out crappy tangled up situations. So, because of that, I am really glad I made the plunge. And, as with any new "thing" that I decide to try, I just have to stick my neck out and take that step. I don't have to be the most popular, have tons of awards, be super snobby or the most expensive. I just need to be able to help. And, well, I do that. Very well.

Ball of Yarn

I have met a few new brides to be over the past few weeks and love listening to all of their ideas. What always strikes me is their lack of confidence with those ideas. When I say I love it, I really mean it. I like to hear their color choices, what their themes are and what their girls gowns will look like. She shyly tells me about her bright red shoes or ceremony vows and even what style of music they like. I'm not quite sure what they think I will say, but they seem to look at me as if I am going to swat them. I am sure their family or friends have given them "the look". But, I have always said, this is the first event you are hosting as a married couple. It should be about you and what you love. Who cares if you both have a private joke about a gorilla that you would like to include somewhere on your invitations. Or, that he proposed on a cruise so you want "ship in a bottle" favors. What if you wanted red and green linens in July? I don't care. I do care that they arrive on time and that I have enough staff to get it set up in time. But, no matter what you want, it's your day honey - lift your head up, stick your chest out and be proud that you have ordered that chocolate Easter bunny wedding cake. And, I'll make sure you love every morsel of it!