The Rare Affair

Super in Salem!

2011-03-21T11:22:00.001-04:00

What a great place to kick off my 2011 season during the Supermoon in Salem, MA! I met Juliet and Atlee last year at Coffee Talk in Salem (who was also their master cake baker). They had been so looking forward to this day but they had a look of sheer fright because of all that needed to be done and the "guard at the gate" at the Nathaniel Silsbee House on Salem Common. But, in the end, it all turned out just perfectly. I arrived on Saturday at A Little Style salon where my bride was already having her beautiful red hair braided and curled. Juliet was radient and remarkably calm. We finished early and was able to catch lunch at her home where she greeted out of town guests bearing gifts - how nice! Once lunch was complete, we seperated. Juliet proceeded to Rouge for make-up and I was off to the venue to make sure that I was first in line to get my hands on decor. Shelby (my assistant and the right side of my brain) arrived and we went over some fun parts of the night to come. Upon arrival we met with Juliets friend Patty who made the ladies beautiful bouquets with Callas and Lilac. So sweet! Her friends really came through for her! Between bouquets, candle favors & pretty centerpieces - she is loved! We set out the gift, memorial table & cake accoutrements and made sure the tables were in line. All had fantastic Salem and memory names like "Mandrake" (where they were engaged) and "Boardman Street" (which was a craft paper wrapped kids table), not to forget "Salem Commons"! Our bride arrives and, oops, forgot the grooms florals at her house - which luckily was two blocks away! I am so jealous that she gets to live in such a fantastic area. Right off Salem Commons which has the BEST hotel ever - The Hawthorne - which is haunted and I love that. I must stay there some night - with a flashlight. The large granite gazebo on the common was where they really wanted to have their ceremony but brrr! It was a chilly day! So, we stayed inside and made it all work. After we scurried our bride into the bathroom (the only hiding place upstairs) we had the entire wedding cast set and lined them up. Shelby was able to coordinate the ceremony music from a laptop and faded it out perfectly! Once our couple jumped the broom we popped the champagne and lots of hugs all around! They headed off to the commons for their formal shots with photographer Christopher Padgett of Little Monkeys Photography. Even though it was a bit chilly, I am sure they couldn't get the smiles off their faces! Back inside the venue, the front room was packed with people trying out the fun St. Patricks Day hats, ties & silly headbands while making faces in the Shutterbooth photo booth. Of course, Shelby and I had our "test" shots done earlier in the day to make sure it was working properly. I guess I am an idiot who cannot pay attention to countdowns but it was throwing me off by suspending a picture on the screen so I thought it was done and then BAM, it takes the picture. I will have to walk in posing for the next booth event! Once cocktails had wrapped up, we lined everyone up in the hall for introductions. This is the best part for me. It's like greyhounds at the gate waiting for the rabbit to run! DJ Greg Capozi of C-Zone Music introduced our group and played the night away - the dancefloor didn't clear until the end! Even throwing in some fun wrestling theme music as a nod to our groom, an ameteur wrestler known as The Greene Machine! They were super fun, and, I found out we graduated together from the same high school! What a small world! I learned that while dining on delicious food prepared by Miziock-Witham caterers. That staff was like a machine! Super fun and incredibly on task - I love that! At 8:00 PM Juliet & Atlee were fortunate enough to spare a few minutes to head back out to the commons to take advantage of the Supermoon. Last night I heard on the news that it won't be back again for another 18 years. I couldn't think of a better way to celebrate their 18th wedding anniversary than by hiring their photographer again to take some more photos on the common! This time with their children! I had such a blast at this wedding. It went off perfectly the entire day and so laid back! A super moon, super venue, super night, super couple!

Amrita & Izi - A Worlds Worth Of Love

2010-08-24T17:39:00.000-04:00

I really don't know where to start with this wedding. It was only the other night on August 22nd. So fresh in my mind. It is difficult to put into words how meaningful this wedding was for me. Not only is every wedding meaningful to me. These past brides I write about will never be forgotten. I guess because this was my first Indian/Jewish wedding. My husband is Jewish and we had a Jewish ceremony. We had the same elements during our ceremony. Could that be it. Not sure. But, something about this one really had me crying the entire weekend. Everyone knows that I am an easy crier. But, when I tell you the front of my dress had big bloppy tears all over it - trust me, this one struck a nerve. Kind of like when the Grinches heart grew three sizes too big and it burst at the end. Yeah, I was there. So, let's start at the beginning. Such a sweet, soft spoken couple. He from Turkey and she from India. There was a bit of an accent barrier and she spoke so quickly, I did have them repeat themselves - often. But, something about them. They would look at each other and giggle. Not flirty eyes, just shy eyes almost. It was very endearing. We met on several occasions to go over the details and every time I did, I could envision their wedding and it would be more and more clear that it was about just the two of them. Nothing showboat, just special. We always assist the bride & groom with their rehearsal and that is where I met their bridal party. People from the other side of the world. Here for Izi and Amrita. It was fantastic to learn about their cultures and hear all about where they met each other. I happened to look down and noticed Amritas beautiful Mendhi designs on her arms. I have never seen real Mendhi on a person, only photos or on TV. When she turned her hands over - I cried. It was so special. Obviously, she was treated like a princess because the amount that was on her hands, she would have had to sit there for hours. Who fed her, who helped her in the little girls room, etc. Just the fact that she was treated like a princess told me a lot about how this culture treats their brides - with absolute respect and adoration. What's more, Izi invited me to their Seder that night. I never go to the rehearsal dinner but something made me feel like part of the family. His family sang the blessings and we enjoyed a delicious meal melting both cultures in that small moment. The next night, I was invited to be a guest at Amritas Sangeet celebration. This was where I was a blubbering idiot. So, there is a stage with an oppulant bench for two. It had a lush backdrop of two indian towers in pink and gold. Before our bride made her entrance, groups of women would come in performing dances - announcing the brides arrival. Then, surrounded by her bridal party (who were holding a red cloth high above her head) they walked her to the stage. Yeah, like royalty - I was overcome and could barely see through the tears. I was so happy for her. Something about the amazing music being played and the way they walked - overtook me. It's those moments when I just get it. I understand why I do this. My husband even got it. I tried to show him a piece of what I do by asking him to accompany me to the Sangeet and he really understood that what I experience with every wedding is special. So, then later, after a delicious Indian meal, our groom arrives in his stoic turban! The crowd was cheering him and surrounding him - dancing for him. A true celebration of the couple. the next morning, I am exhausted, but, I have a big day ahead. And, it's raining. I keep thinking positively - it's New England and anything can happen, right? So, off to the brides home for hair and make-up. I expect Amrita to be lounging after a night of celebration but she's on the floor working on a slideshow. I think she had 5 hours of sleep but still looked fantastic. I, on the other hand, needed another large regular. Hair and make-up are going well and Amrita sits to start her beauty treatment and I am off to the hotel to check in with vendors. The Cambridge Marriott was working fantastically getting evrything done in time. Jen & Salem were my contact there and anything I needed to be handled, was handled already - love that! Unfortunately, it was still raining. My bride arrived a bit behind schedule (but arrived) and we began the Ketubah signing. Our groom was in one room and our bride in the other. Five signatures and photos later - we are walking to the ceremony. Working carefully to obscure the bride, we lined everyone into position and reminded them where to stand. Piano (played by Yuval - fantastic) starts and they process. Thirty minutes later - I swear it was a gunshot outside but no - it was the glass being stomped by my really proud groom! It was so loud!! A smiling couple headed to the rooftop garden for photos with the bridal party - yes, it stopped raining for just that amount of time to get them done - another miracle. The hitch here was that they were supposed too head over to the Charles River Bridge but timing was against us so we switched to plan B. Once photos were done, Amrita came to change into her Lehenga gown. Can I just say - way better than a wedding gown. So many details and a long time to put on. After dressing, she had her make-up touched up (even though she still looked beyond fab) and we head back down for introductions. Her pink and gold reception was dressed with pomander ball centerpiece highs and lows from Dogwood floral (which looked incredible). The gold chiavari chairs with pink sashes made the look complete while the walls were splashed with incredible colors and designs by CJC Event Lighting. The entrees were salmon or vegetarian to satisfy their multicultural guest list and lots of clean plates were made. A delicious cake, adorned with photos the bride provided of their travels (Montillios) was enjoyed by all! It was a tower of travel and decadence! But the best was watching them, on a large screen. Photos of their childhood and and family then photos of the two of them during their travels together. I was actually jealous of their travel, the love from their family, the way they were celebrated. I wished that our culture, celebrated and adored my brides & grooms the way these two were. We have a lot to learn about other cultures and how they treat each other and strangers like me. I was blessed to be a part of this wedding weekend. A stranger to the culture, a family member made, an evening never to be forgotten.

Michelle, My Belle

2010-08-24T16:44:00.001-04:00

OK, so it is Michelle & Chris but my mind goes right back to that special father/daughter dance every time I see her name! This great party was held on August 14th at the historic Commanders Mansion in Watertown. Beautiful on location ceremony in the "orchard" at a perfect 78 degrees with sunshine! My bride was a stunner in her grecian style wedding gown - breathtaking. Might I just say now, that I always cry when I see my brides. There is something to say about a bride just about to walk down the aisle. They are quiet, nervously smiling and awkwardly walking with their escort. Michelle was laughing and soaking in the surprise of it all. We had decorated all of the white chiavari chairs in a plum colored sash so the entire scene was incredible! She and Chris spoke their own vows to each other - very special - then loud cheers and clapping! I was fortunate to be in the back orchard peering through the grapleaves to watch their first married kiss. An honor. A delicious glass of champagne and decadent HD's were served up by Eat Your Heart Out Catering which kept the crowd munching and laughing. Out to the tent where Orchids n Blooms worked their magic again with high and low arrangements accented by peacock feather plumes. We dressed five square tables in the plum with white chair sashes while the rest were dressed with white linen and plum chair sashes. The entire room beamed with excitement! Off to intros and the toasts! Our Best Man realized he forgot to ask all to raise a glass to our shining couple - just another reason to pour fresh champagne! After a delicious, nut free dinner, the guests were enchanted by a 9 foot table filled with delicious chocolate desserts and a fountain for dipping jars of cookies and treats. Outside, the crowd danced continuously to the incredible sounds of The Scooby Snax Band. Then came that special song. Michelle, My Belle. Proud Daddy, Mom looking on, holding her hands to her chest and beaming. Their little belle, now married woman. Always a cherished daughter. Where's my crying towel...

Jessica & Rui!! Like Boston Royalty!

2010-08-24T16:06:00.002-04:00

What can I say about this couple? From the moment I met them back in 2008, I knew they would be fun. They bantered back and forth like a couple already married and had fantastic ideas for their wedding. Their wedding was held back on August 6th at the beautiful Boston Harbor Hotel. All was in place for a spectacular event complete with rich navy linens with lime green accents from the floating white orchids, walls splashed with lush color and a really fun photo booth. The night before, I had a bad feeling that something was going to be up with the hairdresser as she was a bit salty to me both times I spoke to her. But then on the day of - I was optimistic and planned to kill her with kindness. About a half hour after I arrived at the hotel, I just wanted to kill her. She called Jess, 30 minutes before she was to start 7 heads of hair and cancelled. She did have a good reason but not sure if it was true. I will give her the benefit of the doubt but she could have at least tried to get a replacement. What ev. So now it's on. I am now supposed to get hair started in 20 minutes without a stylist. I went to the concierge - please tell me you have a salon on site. Nope. So, where is the closest salon - three blocks away. I am walking and talking to the salon on the phone begging for help. Nope - booked. OK, I am still walking and calling the one person I know can help me. Cheryl Greene. She does a lot of my weddings and on this day, I knew she was working at her home salon but had clients coming - grrrrrr. But! She says, call my friend Jimmy at Delaria Salon over on Commonwealth. I do, but get the other Boston location from 411 and tell the DM my tale of woe. She tells me she will call me right back. I start walking back to the hotel. Tick. Tock. Tick. Tock. I reach the front door. Ring - "We can do it but they need to come to the salon" - NO PROBLEM!!! But wait, we have make-up coming too! Can we use a couple of chairs for the make-up girls - "SURE"! Oh, my god Becky. Saved. So I make it up to the bridal suite and call the front desk to set up cabs to bring the girls over for 12:30. My bride walks into the suite - so calm (I heard later she sets quiet when she is freaking out - justified). I tell her all the good news and she sighs and says - ok. I knew she was bummed. It's not the way it should be - but, sometimes these things happen and it all gets worked out. And, within 15 minutes of the brides call - situation averted and we are back on schedule. Now, for the record, this miracle would not have happened if we were in the boondocks on a Saturday. This was a Friday in Boston and they pulled in girls from other Delaria salons that were available to come to Summer Street. Pure luck on my part but incredible service on Delarias end. OK, so forget about the bad stuff - the rest of the day went awesome! Hair and make-up done with 30 minutes extra on the clock! The room is gorgeous, they have a beautiful ceremony - only glich was the ring bearer didn't want to hold the pillow - he only wanted the goldfish crackers. Buy, hey, I bet that picture will make them laugh later on and there wasn't a screaming ring bearer whipping a pillow around. Post ceremony they enjoyed photos in the courtyard where I think the entire guest list was watching instead of up in the rotunda eating unbelieveable HD's and having cocktails. That's ok too! On the ocean - beautiful couple - way better idea. After cocktails, the guests got caught up in the awesome photo booth (NH Photo Fun Booth). This was so much fun - but, since I photograph terribly I just had to keep trying it (mmm hmmm). The dancey dance in the reception was awesome, plus a great song sung by the DJ Corey (MCO Productions)! My gorgeous bride changed into her Chinese dress - a red stunner - and went back out to dance some more. My groom walked around like royalty and he really deserved it! They worked so hard to be sure this wedding was everything they'd dreamed of - and they achieved it. From back in 2008, when it was just a dream until 2010, a beautiful reality.

The Ames & The Woodward

2010-07-21T09:49:00.000-04:00

So, some of you may know that I am a full time Mom and Event Planner in one. The Mom part can be a tad boring so it's always fun to escape to Boston and check out awesome places. When Amanda Barbuto from The Morgan Hotel Group asked me to come out to The Ames Hotel, I thought, excellent - trot, trot to Boston! So, Garmin gets me to the State House but, I missed the front door of The Ames because they do not have a neon sign shouting "THIS IS THE AMES!!!". Hmmm, a bit mysterious. While circling City Hall, I call in to the front desk for direction and when I got back around front - a spot out was cleared for me to pull right in. I walk through the fantastic front entry into the contemporary vista of a lobby. Hanging artwork and bright colors - so different than the typical hotel lobbys I have grown accustomed to. I check in at the desk to annouce my arrival and head over to the Woodward Bar when I am greeted by the hostess - by name. Ok, a bit creepy but really, really cool. I was feeling that this place was only for me and they were my staff. Unusual and me likey. So, I pass straight through the Woodward because I see this incredible garden patio in the middle of the hustle and bustle of the Fanuel Hall tourist crowd - awesome, people watching - my favorite!!! Amanda greets me and we start out in the lobby where I find out that the original owner is from my home town of Easton - where he had his summer home and a shovel factory. A neat historic connection! We tour the lobby and I find a cool mix of original mosaic tile and an electric foil mobile style artwork hovering above us. Inside the Woodward Tavern we pass a great display of artifacts and modern art as we walk to the second floor. With its dark banquettes and white accents - the room is perfect for intimate events - rehearsal dinners, private parties and small wedding receptions for those who think outside the box. Every window has a Boston view with a mix of history and modern architecture. We head over to the check out the rooms and that's when I had to break out my cell for photos. The rooms are WAY different from the hotel rooms I am used to seeing. No poly bed linens here. Platform beds, minimalist but practical and totally cool accents. I have never seen such a mini bar stocked with Red Bull, jelly beans and even a sensual kit! I can't even say enough about the penthouse - full living room, dining area and bedroom with peek-a-boo shower! I can't even tell you everything - cool lighting tricks in the walls, leather padded elevator, awesome things to just look at (which I love to do). This place was defintely too much! My thought is, The Ames & The Woodward are absolutely perfect for: a small wedding (under 60) with out-of-town guests who are looking for a ceremony within walking distance of everything and in the middle of it all. On top of that - the food and beverage minimum is AFFORDABLE - yup. Once again, I wish I were getting married but alas, been there, done that. So, Please, love, come find me! I have the perfect place for you!! Check it out!

Jersey Girls Do It Better

2010-06-26T23:19:00.004-04:00

Singing Bon Jovi's "Livin' on a Prayer" was always a fun ritual my girlfriends and I had. At the top of our lungs, windows down, hair like Sunday popovers - high and crisp. We'd drive around in one of our "beatahs" with jury-rigged speaker systems cut into the back dash. Our mixed tapes clicking along in the stereo dangling by our knees up front. The smell of Aqua-Net and cigarettes and maybe even a couple fringe leather jackets to match our boots. Ahhhh, memories of my teen years. Cut to June 25th 2010 - I snap out of my flashback, now watching my bride Kristy, surrounded by her nine New Jersey besties, screaming out

"Cuz, it doesn't make a difference
if we make it or not.
We've got each other
and that's a lot
for love, we'll give it a shot! WOA-OHHH."

You know the rest. I missed it and loved it all at once. But, for this wedding, the dancefloor was the spotlight of Kristy and Adams wedding. From the very beginning, I was told that this was a dancing crowd. Yes, we did chat about all kinds of other things: colors, numbers, locations and timelines but it always came back to family, friends and dancing. My day started at the 4 Points Sheraton in Norwood at 8:30 a.m. I don't know how we managed to get 11 heads of hair and 6 faces of makeup done, but, Marc and Sarah worked to beauty perfection. Once gowned & dapper, my bridal party headed out for the reveal and photos (which added precious time). Kristy and I walked together to the secret waterfall at the hotel. She was speaking quickly and full of thought. I remember telling her to take a deep breath, that her best friend is just over the hill. That everything will be ok. We got Kristy into position with Adams back to her. Photographers, Val McCormick, and her assistant Alicia captured all of the perfect angles and more importantly, when Adam turned to see his bride - we had a blushing groom! He looked adorable while blushing and, of course, I tear up. It couldn't be helped! Kristy was absolutely glam perfect! I cannot wait to hear the compliments Videog David Bettencourt and his assistant Jeff were able to capture on the mic! After a lux trip on their limo bus from Boston Limo we arrived at Borderland State Park for a brief photo shoot and then over to The Saphire Estate in Sharon MA. Our Bride wanted to keep some magic, so, they separated for a bit and drank Champagne and giggled while the groom and his boys remained cool in the A/C. We greeted Father Lenny Nelson and got ready to start the line up while the Saphire Event Manager, Noelle Schiller and owner, John Saphire set the scene to perfection. An elegant beach theme (a nod to the Jersey Shore) was set by florists, Erica & Scott Jones of Orchids 'n Blooms. Lush hydrangea, tiny sea shells and rich sea glass twinkling along with the glowing candles dazzled the reception room. Their DJ, Eric Poss, set the ceremony and reception locations for music and was ready to begin the processional. We were all ready. Over the bridge they went and a half hour later, they came back again - this time with tear tracks and smiles! Married!! More photos, cigars, Sangria, first dance, Mother & Father dances, photos by the water, Champagne, delicious dinner, hugs, kisses, a few more photos and Woa-OH! Livin' on a Prayer!!! This is where they always wanted to be - right here - in this moment. Family, Friends & Dancing. Perfect.

Brittany & Joe's Wedding!!

2010-06-07T09:10:00.004-04:00

I am so excited to chat about Britt & Joe's wedding finally!! It all started with a weather watch as usual! But, I was especially worried with a tent involved. It was supposed to be sunny & 77 (perfect in my book) but overnight it turned south and thunderstorms were to plague the day. I packed three golf umbrellas and my rubber boots for set up and headed out to Boston. Upon arrival, I was thrilled that there were "clear" skies but, it was 8:30 a.m. and we had a long way to go. I met the hair (Maura Keppel) and make-up (Jillian Harwich) team in the lobby and made our way up to the girls. All so excited but, still thinking about the weather. After coordinating the swapping of girls in the salon chair, I headed over to The Green Turtle (a floating B & B) to drop off their honeymoon bags and do a walk through with the groom. I was so excited for them because this place was cool. I have to admit with the movement of the boat, I didn't think it would be so great after a night of drinking, but, the next morning I heard how soothing it was, "so relaxing". At 1 PM, I headed over to The Commandants house to meet Docent, Kirsten (Lianna to arrive later) to get my day "started". Shelby & Linsday (my trusty assistants) were already there - ready to go set up. We were quickly followed over by the Bride & her maids. There was some photography going on but honestly, I couldn't wait for the planned reveal on the front steps. This was the first reveal I had ever witnessed and I must say, this was probably the best idea because I always thought cocktail photos take away from your wedding experience. Joe arrived to the front steps with his groomsmen and after a very special reveal, the entire party headed out to the Charlestown Navy Yard for photos with photog's Michael Keegan, Chrissy Dahlstrom & Brian Malloy (can't wait to see those!). Fast forward to ceremony time, all is set & ready and for a minute - I can't find Dad! He was located under the ceremony tent chatting up guests! I love that at weddings, you just haven't seen some people in years and it is the best time to say Hi & catch up! But, it was "time" and I hated to break him away. Ok, so Dad's in line - cue the music. Now, let me back up a bit. Shelby had received a call that there was a tornado watch in effect. The groomsmen were getting calls as well - and we were watching the skies. I went out to give the thumbs up to the JP (Justice Tom Welch) and there were big bloppy raindrops - not enough to ruin photos with a big dopey golf umbrella - but drops none the less. I still said nothing about rain (or a tornado for that matter) to Britt. Imagine thinking of a twister all through your ceremony!! So, the entire bridal party heads down and it's a bit dark - I am worried - but, it is still NOT raining. I look up at the DJ's stationed above the ceremony on the verandah to cue Britts processional. Now here is where it all turns into a slow motion dream-like moment. I cue the music and "Come Away With Me" by Norah Jones starts to play. I look over at the ceremony tent to my left to be sure all are looking our way - I look to my right to be sure Britt is ready to go. I look up at the sky to the right of the DJ and no kidding - the clouds instantly parted (think Simpsons) and the sun blared on the front of the ceremony tent!! I grabbed my chest, my jaw dropped and I twisted my head to Britt and was mouthing "THE SUN JUST CAME OUT!!!". I could not believe it and still get chills when I tell others about it. So, I'm all choked up, starting to get teary and she walks, looking stunning and just thrilled!! After the winebox and a loud WOOOOOOOOOH!! - they sealed their vows with a kiss! What a great ceremony - but it doesn't end there! All headed into the cocktail reception inside the beautiful Commandants House enjoying great HD's & Prosecco - YUM! Oh, this is the point where Shelby finally found my missing camera and shot off a few pics of the reception -which looked fantastic!! Britt chose her colors carefully and it all came together beautifully! The flowers (designed by Orchid's n Blooms) were so soft and plush - perfect for a hot spring night. The bouquets matching the blue & red flowers on the front walkway - so vibrant! We got the BP lined up and it was then we let Britt know about the tornados and she had to laugh! It's always better to tell the bad news once you have corrected it - or after "it" doesn't happen!! DJ Michael O'Neil & his assistant Steve Coveney from MCO Productions introduced the excited bridal party (lot's of WOOOOO-ing going on!) and they took their seats for toasts. Dad, stole the show and probably thanked each and every guest by name until Britt's Mom started chanting "Britt & Joe!, Britt & Joe!, Britt & Joe!" The rest of the evening was spent dining on delicious morsels from Tastings Catering. Sue, of course, directing the staff to timed perfection. Dancy, dancy, dancy dance! We ALL danced that night - super fun!! We don't normally dance with the guests at weddings, but, let's just say we had a fan club and lots of prodding. At the end of the evening, Britt & Joe treated their guests to a harbor cruise around Boston Harbor and I was so thankful it wasn't the stormy three hour Gilligan's tour that I had imagined! A wonderful evening for two wonderful people. An absolutely great start to my 2010 wedding season! Can't wait to do it again in two weeks for Kristy and Adam. And, yes, I am watching the weather reports as we speak hahaaha!

The Skinny

2010-05-18T09:50:00.000-04:00

I met with two of my brides this week and a third a couple of weeks ago and I noticed a three-peat. All were so thin. Not sickly thin, but much thinner than the last time I saw them. I have to ask if they are OK, make sure they are eating and not stressed out. If I can take some things off their mental to-do list and such. We chat about what they need to get done and resolve a bunch of issues. All say they are not doing anything differently i.e.: started jogging, have a sudden aversion to food, ate a tape worm, etc.. So, I thought about when I was getting re-married and the issues I had with my body. Right off the bat, I though of the doughy bread-baking arms that I had (and still have) and that I had a belly pooch. I admit, I look at my photos from the wedding now and think how thin I was and wish I was that thin again. I have spoken to some of my brides after their wedding and found that they are all disgusted by all of the weight they have gained since the wedding. Really, they look like they did when we did our first consultation. I wonder if realize their post-wedding body is the way their fiance saw them before the wedding (and he still put a ring on it). He loves you just the way you are. Yes, you will have your svelte bride body in photos forever but, don't go crazy love. I guess if you are not at a healthy weight and you want to tighten up - but, you don't have to go Kate and be a stick. Don't get me wrong, my girls are healthy but some brides to be will go way overboard. Put the shoe on the other foot. Maybe he likes those curves - every one of them. What if he lost all of his muscles before the wedding? Yeah, you love his personality and he's a great guy 'n all but...you kinda liked those muscles and maybe after the wedding you can help him get them back. Right?

My first time

2010-05-13T21:19:00.000-04:00

Well, my first bridal event was something to learn from, for sure. I've wanted to do a show for a while but was always a bit timid. I try not to be a timid person but my mind sometimes travels back to seventh grade - you know that feeling, right? This was defintely one of those moments! Will I know the answers to the questions people ask me? Will I be able to help them with tough issues? It turns out - yeah - I do know what I am talking about. And, yes, I do help people sort out crappy tangled up situations. So, because of that, I am really glad I made the plunge. And, as with any new "thing" that I decide to try, I just have to stick my neck out and take that step. I don't have to be the most popular, have tons of awards, be super snobby or the most expensive. I just need to be able to help. And, well, I do that. Very well.

Ball of Yarn

2010-05-03T17:59:00.000-04:00

I have met a few new brides to be over the past few weeks and love listening to all of their ideas. What always strikes me is their lack of confidence with those ideas. When I say I love it, I really mean it. I like to hear their color choices, what their themes are and what their girls gowns will look like. She shyly tells me about her bright red shoes or ceremony vows and even what style of music they like. I'm not quite sure what they think I will say, but they seem to look at me as if I am going to swat them. I am sure their family or friends have given them "the look". But, I have always said, this is the first event you are hosting as a married couple. It should be about you and what you love. Who cares if you both have a private joke about a gorilla that you would like to include somewhere on your invitations. Or, that he proposed on a cruise so you want "ship in a bottle" favors. What if you wanted red and green linens in July? I don't care. I do care that they arrive on time and that I have enough staff to get it set up in time. But, no matter what you want, it's your day honey - lift your head up, stick your chest out and be proud that you have ordered that chocolate Easter bunny wedding cake. And, I'll make sure you love every morsel of it!

Awww.

2010-04-15T09:46:00.000-04:00

I know this couple who have been together for years and years. They actually live together now. She did one of those Facebook quizzes – “When will you get married?”. The answer startled me when I read her results –it said “never”. I know that her boyfriend is like the milk to her chocolate cake. They love to do awesome things together – the same things. I almost felt like I had to defend her from this mean robot behind the screen – what do you mean NEVER!! He really loves her!!
Then my little feminist came out and I thought “well, she really doesn’t need to get married – she has a great job, really fun life with a really great guy so who cares about a certificate”. I made a response comment – “a piece of paper in a town hall drawer would not change your life in the least so don’t worry”. She replied back – “it still would be nice to hear it though”. Even my inner feminist melted. I was lucky, I was asked to be married twice and it is a nice feeling to know that someone wants to be with only you for the rest of your lives. That was a heavy heart.
It is true, women today are very unlike women of the old days. We no longer need to marry for the financial security because most of us are independent, educated and make our own money. Most jobs have great benefits such as health insurance and retirement plans so that isn’t the draw. It’s not even necessary to be married to have children – that stigma is gone as well. So, I wondered, why else did people get married – family mergers? Maybe, but, I haven’t heard of that lately – unless, of course, your name is Trump or Kennedy. So, if not for security, not for chastity and not for power – in 2010, what is the reason we are still getting married. Could it truly be that we are marrying – for love? I hope so. I really, really hope so.

Feel like a woman again...

2010-04-07T14:59:00.000-04:00

You saw that hot bra and undie set and thought, "ooh, so cute! When will I ever wear that?" or "it will be on the floor in two seconds and I don't want to waste the money". What if that hot bra and undie set could be around forever and actually enjoyed long after it hit the floor. What if your man had photos of you, being beautiful in your own way, any time of the day or night. The way he fell in love with you. Over and over again, even after the babies and bad hair days. If you want that, I can only say this - I met Shannon Michelle today. Shannon Michelle owns Couture Boudoir in Boston. We chatted like old girlfriends in a Barnes & Nobles. I flipped through the most beautiful fashion boudoir albums. Women looking like women - not trash. And real women, moms, brides to be, people you know - looking like they were photographed for Esquire or Maxim. True magazine quality photos. I loved the album so much I am seriously considering doing a shoot to celebrate my 40th birthday. I would totally enjoy the hair and make-up team, the luncheon, the pampering. Capturing my beauty before it hits the floor where no amount of Botox could save me - ew, I know! Check her out for yourself @ www.shannon-michelle.com. The bedroom books are to die for - especially if you are one of those chicks who LOVES fashion. This is it. Do it for you, do it for him, just do it.

Guess what!!

2010-03-24T11:12:00.000-04:00

OK - I can jump on this trend because I LOVE IT!!! I was out with Kristy getting an after lunch treat at Guarino's bakery (we both love whipped cream frosting) but, we came out with the awesomist idea - a really crazy wedding cake. We all love the Ace of Cake and those whimsy cakes with polka dots and jewelry but this is a new area where brides are bringing in their "couple" personalities. I know this is usually done with the grooms cakes but why not do it with your main showcase! Because Kristy is from New Jersey, she thought a Jersey Shore cake would be so fun. We were going to include the bridges and the fountain with columns supporting the cake - all with bathing suit clad bridal party! I know the bridges, fountains and people are WAY old school - that was the whole point! She knew it would make people laugh. She is all about fun and not being so serious about her big day! Not sure if her fiance will go for it or how it will come out but the point is - as I have always said - this is the first event you are hosting as a married couple. It should be all about you and what you love! So, show off "all about you" with your cake! It's only gonna get carved up anyway - enjoy it while you can! I KNOW - it's your wedding cake - it doesn't mean you can't have fun!!

Me First!

2010-03-23T16:43:00.004-04:00

I love to give you all tips that you won't or may not find in your pretty planning books. There are certain things that we just know from experience and seem totally unrelated to your wedding. This issue has come up recently and I was called in to help resolve it. One of my brides had decided to book a local restaurant for her rehearsal dinner. She ordered a menu to look over but set it aside as her wedding is a few months away. She did nothing wrong really but when I inquired about her plans, she asked if I could assist with creating a custom menu wih the restaurant. My first question to the restaurant was - is the room still available for X date. Apparently, the room had been booked for months already and not by my client. I felt terrible for her because this was the place she and her fiance had chosen. The problem is, her wedding is in June which is a very busy month for events. There are, of course, weddings, graduation parties and for some reason - lots of Bachelorette parties. So your 40 guest rehearsal dinner has to compete with these big life events - especially on a Thursday or Friday night. Why? Because of the economy, people are trying to save a buck any way they can. Most venues, as you know, discount for week nights. The same happens in May - you have a lot of proms and large groups of kids taking over the restaurant function room. This is why you need to book your limo's and tuxes early if you wedding is in May or June as well. There are lots of things to consider during these months. Wedding planners know what to do. We make sure the bases are covered - even though it may seem as common as buying a gallon of milk - sometimes, theres a rush and you don't want to get stuck with the skim.

It's Official

2010-03-13T08:18:00.001-05:00

Well, I have finally done it - I am doing a bridal show. I've wanted to do it for so long and it's finally coming to fruition. I don't like those bridal expo scenes - I feel like the lawyer in the emergency room. But, I found a person that is willing to keep it to one theme and to keep it intimate. Being a smaller venue (as in - not a ballroom), the bride will be able to chat with vendors without fighting through a crowd. So, it's The Bridal Spa & Gown Affair at Maria of Italy in Plymouth, Ma and I am wicked excited!! The date is May 12th from 6 - 9 pm. The first floor will have mini manis/pedis, mini massages, hair demonstrations, lingerie, DJ etc. Very fun and bachelorette party-ish. Upstairs, we have bridal gowns, bridal jewelry and me. I can't wait to host this event and chat with brides about their weddings! I hope to see you there!

Goodness!

2010-03-09T15:14:00.005-05:00

Girl, it has been a busy month! I have met some great new brides and have been attending some fun bridal events. Last Sunday, I went to the Bridal Faire at the Commanders Mansion in Watertown. I worked the venue last summer but we didn't have access to the entire mansion. This time, I got to see the entire beauty! There was a groom speaking about his own wedding that had occured a few months prior. He explained that they used the entire space. He mentioned that they created interest in each room so that the guests would actually tour the mansion without realizing it. That is such a fantastic idea. I have the pleasure of working the CM in August for Michelle & Chris and we are actually creating a dessert buffet in the mansion to bring guests back inside. We felt that after cocktail hour, the group moves to the tent and the mansion (which is rented for a hefty sum) is technically only used for that hour. Why not make sure that it is used as much as possible. If you book a mansion for your venue, make sure you use the space to its fullest. Create a dessert room or a photo guest book room for your guests. Why not display family wedding photos on the mantles or tables throughout. This is the perfect opportunity to create the feeling that it is your home. Don't forget to display your favors by the front door!

The Saphire Estate

2010-03-01T22:18:00.000-05:00

Do you remember the old Saphire Manor in Sharon? You probably had a prom there if you lived in the Sharon/Stoughton/Easton area. It used to be so dark and gloomy and who could forget the crazy ugly mural over the shipwreck bar. Things have changed my friends. I saw the recently re-done venue a couple of years ago and was pleasantly surprised. It was nice to see the "after" but its still fun to remember the "before"! Tonight, I was invited to attend the tasting for Kristy and Adam at the Saphire Estate - did you notice the new name too? I have to say, I think everything including the menu has been done over. The food was excellent. The last time I had eaten there was at a wedding of a co-workers daughter. We had the baked stuffed chicken. Need I say more. This time, we were able to sample everything from gazpacho to whoopie pies - and it was all delicious. Things certainly have changed over there - maybe it's time for you to take a second look too.

Got Ring??

2010-02-15T10:20:00.000-05:00

Funny, when my now husband and I were dating, Valentines Day was "THE DAY" to get engaged. Something about the expression of love really set the tone. Dinner, roses, Champagne bubbling in my glass - I just knew it would be then that I would get engaged. But, then there was Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, etc., etc. If you are one of those girls that have been waiting years for that ring - and now you've got it - what are you gonna do next! The first thing I did was get my manicure. I knew I'd be showing that baby off everywhere I went. I also had it cleaned about 4 times before the weekend hit. Now, after ten years of marriage - my rings is nice and dirty! But, I still remember. Staring at my hand in the morning mirror, watching the little rainbows against the car door, the 2 pm light show in my office at work, friends wanting to try it on. The excitement of hearing that "oooh, he did a god job!". I loved every minute of it. So, If you are a Valentine Fiance - I hope you enjoy it too. But, only for a little while - planning your wedding is way too fun to wait too long!

Another one....

2010-02-06T14:04:00.001-05:00

I just heard about another venue closing - Cyprian Keys Country Club in Boylston, MA. They are trying to get financing to re-open but this only compounds my previous advice to GET WEDDING INSURANCE!! It really is worth it especially if you hear of a closing. The girl on the news was solidly booked with her wedding plans at Cyprian. She got wind of the closing from her officiant and tried to cancel her reception the next day. Can you believe they told her she would have to forfeit $1500 of her 2K deposit. She agreed because she had no choice! They officially announced their closing three days later. What arrogance!! That is unreal! I will say it again, your planner can rebound on this tragedy very quickly and re-book you at another available location - but you will need the insurance re-imbursement to lay down another deposit. Unless, of course, you are one of those rich girls that can just lay it all out again. Yeah, lets go insurance hunting.

A Gift

2010-01-31T08:01:00.000-05:00

Having been married twice, I completely understand a Bride's need for an event coordinator. I happen to do it on a daily basis now, but at the time, I didn't know who (or not) to call when it came to the vendors I needed. My first wedding, I researched all of the vendors and the second - I went with the package deal - hey, I was busy! I made a lot of mistakes and wasted a lot of money - but the worst was that I didn't have anyone watching out for me! I know that everytime I see the cake knife the venue gave me - with the other wedding couples names on it - I made some mistakes. It is a remider of what minor things can go wrong at a wedding. But, I also know everyone has a budget and it is a costly service that some would consider a luxury. As far as that point goes, I don't feel that it is a luxury anymore but more of a necessity. But, again, I understand - as I paid for those two wedding myself and carefully budgeted each paycheck for a year. Because of those budgets, I have always thought that it would be a great gift to give to a bride whether by a family member or a truly special one from her groom. But, today, I was contacted by a Maid of Honor requesting info for her friend. She wanted to gift my services to her friend whose father is currently in hospice. Having lost my own father, my heart sunk. If I can think of any other time to book planner services, it would be then. A planner is going to free up your time - prescious time that can be spent with loved ones while in hospice. Even more true, a planner can work fast and produce a wedding within a very short period of time. This is the case for military brides as well. We know that you have so little time and it may seem overwhelming. With a planner - we know the right vendor to call for your buget, we know how to negotiate appropriate discounts, and what needs to be accomplished in a short period of time. The only way we differ from a bride - the planning is not an emotional decision. We are focused on your needs and what works best for your event. Especially, if you need handicap access or an on site nurse. Even though I know you need us, I also know that it may not be in your wedding budget to hire us. But, the gift of a wedding coordinator - is truly priceless.

An Honor...

2010-01-19T17:46:00.002-05:00

Well, I must say that 2010 has started off beautifully! I have been so busy researching and scheduling appointments that I have neglected my blog. Sorry!! I am meeting some great vendors for this season and cannot wait to see what they produce. I am also super excited about the brides that we have booked this year. They are all real gals with great ideas for a super fun receptions and after parties to boot!! BUT, even more exciting was the message that hit me today from Weddingwire.com. We actually did it again!! We won the Brides Choice Award for 2010 for excellence in service! I couldn't have done it without my past brides. Every wedding, large or small, allowed me to grow as a planner in such a positive way. I am thrilled to begin our fourth season with Shelby by my side (and one more fresh face to be announced soon I hope). We are currently looking for another star to help me produce perfection! I am a stickler so it will be a tough decision but we have some great candidates! I am so excited for this year to unfold. We have lots of dates available. Don't forget, we only book one wedding per weekend so book early and actually enjoy your engagement (please). You deserve it Lovies!

It's Holiday Season!

2009-12-03T08:41:00.002-05:00

I love the holiday season! In my family, we celebrate both Chanukah and Christmas so we have lots of parties together! When I was planning my wedding I used the holiday season to catch up with relatives I hadn't seen in years. Before coming to any party, I made sure I brought my address book. I double checked everyones address and made updates right there with them. If any friends or relatives didn't have the chance to join the party - there was always someone there who would pull out an address book with the info I was missing. Don't forget to check the telephone and cell number as well - just in case you need to RSVP by phone! What the heck - while your at it -get the email too! I am the type of person who multitasks without even thinking about it. So, using these times was a no-brainer! In my mind, I go through "what-if" scenarios. What if I send their invite to the wrong address and It comes back with ugly red stamps "Not at this address". I couldn't have that on my beautiful invitations - with special extra postage! No way! I would have to toss it and start over - that's like tossing $$ in the trash!! Especially a waste if I had the calligraphy done! I would have to go back and have that one envelope done over. Who wants to add to their "to-do" list six weeks before their wedding! Absolutely, No way!! So, take advantage of seeing your relatives and take a moment to update your address book! It only takes a moment and costs nothing! If you don't have an address book - get one - you'll definitely need a proper one as a married woman! Have a Happy Holiday - whichever one you celebrate - and don't forget your address book!

Location Sweet Location...

2009-11-09T13:47:00.002-05:00

I know what you are doing now that you have that shiny new ring! I know that you are researching those venues! You're trying to select a menu and with all of those options - none of it makes sense. So you contact the venue to get clarification. It's sounds good and you set an appointment for a tour. You and your fiance drive out, take the tour, ask a lot of questions and leave with a beautiful packet. Multiply that times 16 and here you are, on The Rare Affair website. It's OK!! I've been there with lots of brides on those tours and I know it can be overwhelming. I bet you are wishing you could take the view from one place, take the menu from another, pricing from another, convenience from this one or that one. I promise you, this IS the worst part of planning your wedding. It truly is like searching for a house. The investment is probably close to a down payment as it is! The best way to decide - take your top three, pretend they were all exact in price - now, which would you choose? Take that favorite and make a call to the salesperson that took you on your tour and negotiate. Start with your budget and tell them that the package price they create for you must include all taxes and services fees for X number of guests. See what they come up with. The package is for their convenience - not yours and I know my clients have NEVER fit into those boxes. Do you have to cut your guest list to make budget - maybe. Do you have to forgo specialty linens - maybe. But if the location is right for you and your budget, there are always minor sacrifices. Be flexible and you will not regret your decision.

Foxy Fifties!

2009-10-22T08:56:00.000-04:00

While watching Good Morning America's Bridal segment this morning I couldn't help but notice the style of this years wedding gowns. We are going back to the 50's. Could it be that the Mad Men hit is creeping to our everyday style to include weddings. YES!! I love this style. I have been saying for about a year now, that we are reverting back to basics. The local butcher is coming back, farmers markets are huge and stay at home moms are making casseroles instead of ordering take-out. The trend in weddings lately has been the destination wedding - it really does save money. But, there is also the cocktail reception allowing brides to thumb their nose at gala events. I loved to see the cocktail length wedding dress and it brought back memories of when war brides would go into city hall to take their vows. They would be decked out in these fantastic suits, grand corsages and netted pillbox hats. What a classic look! I also noticed that the ballgowns were very similar to those coverlets your grandmother had on her bed. When I was a child, I would follow those soft zig-zag lines with my finger until I drifted off to sleep. While I am sure you don't want to look like you're wearing the old blanket from the hall closet - it really did look soft and gave great texture to the look. Are the 50's coming back, maybe. Am I worried? Absolutely not - that was the era where a woman looked like a woman - curvacious, feminine and delicious! Classic Femme - is there any other way to be on your wedding day?

A Beautiful Day!

2009-10-08T21:46:00.000-04:00

Today I was honored to attend the wedding of Pamela & Linda in Marblehead. What made this wedding fabulous was there were no photographers, no caterers, no linens, cake or even guests. Just the one most important feature - love. I have always said - there is nothing that you can purchase to make a wedding special, rather, it is the people that are getting married that make it special. From that moment on, they will be the only two working through sickness and health, richness and poorness, good times and bad - together. They will be the ones who matter to each other for the many years to come. They will lean on each other and overcome any obstacle that comes before them because of that love. That love, joined together, is what gives them the strength to overcome and enjoy. For this reason, I was honored to be a part of their day. Love is why I do what I do. Everyone has love to give and the capacity to accept it. But, it is rare to see it live.

Head of The State Room

2009-10-08T11:11:00.016-04:00

Last night, I was one of the priviledged to be invited to The State Room in Boston to open the holiday season. Let me tell you, if you want a view of the city - this is where you need to be. Every section of this room has unbelievable views - without having to look down! The food stations - there were too many to choose from - but I did anyway! I sampled selections from the ocean and earth, starting with my favorite crab cakes and yummy garlic mussels and ending with a decadent chocolate display. In between, I ate some french fries in these adorable little brown bags, salmon bites and yummy sheeps milk Hors d'oeurves. The State Rooms' presentation was flawless as usual and the room decor was gorgeous! I had so much fun seeing my old friends and making new ones - it really was a fun group! I can't wait to work with them in the new year and had a fabulous time! If you would like a tour of The State Room - call my friend Elaine Twombley. She will show you the world - literally!

WEDDING INSURANCE!!!!

2009-09-25T11:27:00.004-04:00

What a nightmare!! About a week ago there was a huge clammor amongst wedding industry friends of mine about the sudden closure of The Georgetown Club in Georgetown, MA. They locked their doors and filed for bankruptcy protection. Employees suddenly have no job, creditors are not paid and the worst part - brides getting married that weekend and in the very near future - have no place to hold their reception. What I really hoped was that some of those brides invested in wedding insurance. In the past, this type of insurance was thought of as an unneccesary expense. In many cases it was due to their confidence that their venue is a landmark or otherwise well known facility in seeimingly good financial health. Wedding planners usually hear via the underground when some vendors or even venues are on shaky financial ground. We like to keep others in the know if they do decide to go with that vendor and make their own decisions. But, with the recent closing of the Georgetown Club, what about your florist? How about the limo company. Protection is there for couples to make sure they recoup their financials but what happens a week before your wedding and the venue closes? If you have a planner - there is always a plan B. We have the resources, we make the calls, we can negotiate a better deal and make sure you have all the information needed to make fast decisions. Get all the information you can about insurance and make a decision that is best for you. There are lots of companies to choose from and if you own your own home - check with your homeowners insurance to see if you can get a binder from them. It is reasonably priced and based on deposits, gift theft, jewelry loss, etc.. Anything can happen at a wedding - just don't let it happen to you.

Lookit those eyes!

2009-09-23T14:33:00.004-04:00

Hey girls! Listen, I had to tell you because I thought I was going crazy. I noticed in pictures that my eyes look gi-normous and could'nt help but think - wow, look at my eye's - they are so pretty!! I am one of those people whose eyes change colors - from slate blue to green to amber-ish. I can always tell it's gonna be a good day when they're green honey!! So, anyway, today I was putting on my mascara and noticed another thing - I have way more lashes than I used to. I used to have three big patches and then a few little baby lashes in between. I was never happy with them and even contemplated buying falsies to make them more uniform but, you know, I didn't want to look like a glam goddess while shopping at the grocery store! Just being honest. Here's what I figured out - it's my new masccara! Now, I bought it because it was on sale - and I had a coupon - so there's a bonus. It's that Covergirl Exact Eyelights. I bought it in Target in the shade of Black Gold. I prefer a darker lash and this is made for my specific eye shade. I knew they would pick up the color highlights in the mascara but grow my lashes too?? Who'd have thought that was a benefit. Now, I cannot say that was the case but, honestly, I don't care. I love this stuff and my lashes look fab. Covergirl - you've done it!! And, NO, I don't get any free Covergirl stuff, nor am I a paid endorser but Hey, Covergirl - LOVE IT!

Make Money, Money!

2009-09-23T12:50:00.003-04:00

Hey girls, here is another tip that you can use TODAY!! If you are one of those brides who has to wait to save some more cash before you can start planning your wedding - this one is for you! Did you ever think about putting your money in a short term CD? There are many levels of short term ranging from months to years as well as different levels of interest rates. But, regardless of the term, in many cases, you come out with a little more money than what you put in. Some banks will also allow you to add money to that same CD so you will be able to stay on track with your saving. Also, some have deposit caps but it is definitely worth looking into. Even if there is a cap and you have saved some more money - open another CD for a shorter term. Keep the CD's SAFE by making sure the bank is FDIC insured and lock those little bank books in a safe. Plus, the best part - you can't easily touch that cash like a regular savings account. Just in case you decide you hafta to have those awesome new _______.

Save the Dollars!

2009-09-23T10:40:00.005-04:00

In case you didn't know, the dollar bill is on the endangered species list. With the recent economy floundering - people don't want to spend any money just in case. We know the feeling! So, that puts brides in a precarious situation because they want everything because it is sooooo cute, beautiful, perfect, {insert descriptive word here}. But, they run the calculator in their mind and put it back on the shelf. We understand what you are going through! But, did you know, that working with a planner will actually SAVE you money. Let's just choose one item out of your wedding details that everyone does for weddings - flowers. You want them, even if you are not into flowers. The groomsmen need bout's, maids need bouquets, Moms need corsages, etc. right? So, you have decided to not have flowers on the tables to save some cash. But what should we do there instead? Sure, you can put candles there but you will have to be sure you CAN use candles at the venue. You might need to put hurricanes over them to prevent a fire or get the LED tealights. So, good, that's done. But, what else is going with it - it looks too sparse. You could put some seashells around them or some silk blossoms or colored stones. Yes, that looks better. But, did you notice that you added the additional components to make it look complete? All that adds up per table. Trying to make your table look nice will still cost you money regardless of what smaller items you use. But, working with a planner, we have florists that will take what you do have to spend and use that creatively to make your table look fabulous for very little money. Our florists will use more textural items, inexpensive greens, blossoms, containers and sometimes items you wouldn't have even thought of. Our course, you don't need a planner to do that but our knowledgable florists know you need to get creative on your lowered budgets. They make your wedding special without it looking watered down. Walking into your local florist and telling them that you have a thousand to spend may make them flinch. Their package doesn't fit your budget perhaps. We tell our florists what you are working with and they make it happen. Even if you want exotic orchids! You don't need a bushel - but a few would be nice, right! There are ways, and we know them.

Bargain, Bargain, Bargain - SCORE!

2009-09-21T18:28:00.004-04:00

So, I love to find a bargain regardless of where I am - Target, Bloomingdales and even the gas station. But, this past month has been crazy finding bargains for my three boys heading back to school. One likes the skater look, one goes for the jock wear and my littlest one - well, let's just say I like anything but white. But what I do love in white is wedding gowns. Did you know that as a planners we can find so many deals on wedding gowns and you don't have to look any further than that pricey bridal boutique. Just like your local department store changes fashions according to the seasons, bridal salons so the same. The best way to get a deal, or even a steal, is to shop the boutique during their trunk show. This is where the salon will highlight a certain designers next seasons gowns. But, here is the thing, you are getting married in the fall and they are showing the summer collection. Not to worry though! Some salons will allow you to purchase that designers fall collection during the summer show at the same discount! Many salons have that last season gown already discounted to make space for the new collection - that equals double discount!! One bride was looking for a specific Maggie Sottero gown and we were able to make sure that gown was delivered to the trunk show store so she could try it on. Of course she loved it. Yes, it was last season, yes it was discounted, yes she saved over $700. Not that I need to say more but p.s. honeys - thats $100 short of paying for your Month of Coordination with The Rare Affair! Bonus!! Now, lets see what we can do about those snazzy linens you were contemplating....

Take a seat...

2009-08-06T08:25:00.003-04:00

On a couple of occasions, I have had brides that wish to have a laid back feel to their wedding reception without so much formality that they prefer not to use place cards. Because they selected an Inn that had a quaint restaurant in house, we decided to try it and found that it doesn't completely work. Their head tables had adorable little signs on them that read "Oops, this table is reserved" but the bride's uncle thought that since family was seated there and he was family - that he should sit there as well. This eliminated a seat for the father of the bride and his wife creating an embarrasing situation. We then had to find another two seats in a room with singles available. You can imagine the unfortunate outcome - moving people that had half eaten rolls with butter wrappings on the tables. Replacing place settings and adding chairs to tight tables was not fun. But, it was a learning expereince that no matter what the situation - place cards are always a necessity - people really do want to be told where to sit and not figure it out themselves. But, recently we had a cocktail reception (nightclub style) with what turned out to be an open invitation and we were beyond capacity. Because there would be some older guests, our concientious bride wanted to be sure they had access to a seat and reserved 8 tables (80 seats) for their comfort. Being a cocktail reception, assigned seating is not standard and we expected guests to understand that the assigned seats were a courtesy to the older guests but we were incorrect. Many guests complained that they did not have a seat, some guests took the available seats creating issues with the guests assigned to that seat and some even decided to leave. Now, I will say that at the remaining "open" cocktail tables - there were an additional 44 chairs available but they were not where those guests wanted to be seated. In the end, both receptions went on (even though there was a rocky start) and the guests enjoyed dinner and dancing. The guests who complained in the beginning were laughing and having a great time an hour later and all went well. But, no matter what style reception you are thinking of having - make sure that there is enough seating, keep your invitation list closed and always assign seating. It makes for a fabulous event and your guests will thank you!

Yami & Peter

2009-07-26T12:28:00.008-04:00

I was priviledged to produce the wedding for Yami and Peter last night and I cannot express how happy I was to have been a part of it. All couples should take Yami & Peter's wedding and use it as an example on how to perservere in the face of wedding challenges. Like many brides, Yami was so excited to plan her day. When the planning began it became more than they really wanted - just to have an intimate, swanky and fun event. They selected a great Boston venue but after finding that their wedding was getting bigger than they wanted, they decided to take it to the tropics. They invited a few select friends and family members and planned location tours and fun dinners. Their plans were in place at the lux Moon Palace Resort and then came the H1N1 epidemic. All flights in or out of Cancun were cancelled. So, after much grief, they decided to cancel their dream tropical wedding. Now, the panic sets in - what are they supposed to do? Put it off for 6 months or just go for it? I assured her to go ahead and just do it! All plans can be done is a couple of days as long as you are willing to be flexible and decide to stick with what is most important to you. They were able to plan the third wedding in just three weeks time by securing a church, venue (which was to be used for their return party), new dress, flowers, tux - everything. So now that the sad part is over, on to the best reception I have ever - yes, ever - been to. The reason I say "ever" is because this is the nicest couple who is deserving of such a day. At her rehearsal I had the crowd applaude them because we never thought we'd see this day. We set her venue in rich purple linens and silver chiavari chairs. We accented the room with lime green orchids and sashes on the bridal party chairs. The room was backlit with a lucious fuscia glow that completely transformed the room. Yami rolled up, literally, in an antique Rolls Royce with a long white stretch behind her. Even in the heat, it was difficult to get the guests inside as they wanted the first glimpse of her exiting the car. From the last pew in the church I was able to get a full view of the congregation. The kleenex was pulled and cameras were flashing at every move they made. It seemed as though the guests were hanging on every word. When the ceremony ended, Peter embraced Yami and gave her the sweetest, most loving kiss I have seen in a while - truly romantic movie quality! Out onto the court where Yami and Peter thanked their guests and snapped photos. That's where I had to leave them and get ready to greet their many guests at the venue. Yami and Peter decided to have a cocktail reception instead of a sit-down dinner which to me was a smart decision because that is what they wanted in the first place. Yes, they had more guests than anticipated but an hour after guests arrived, the smiles and laughter filled the hall. A fun candy display greeted the children but I saw many adults indulging as well! It was too cute not to take a picture of so I made sure the photographer got a shot before it was cleaned out! They danced through the night with everyone they love. Even though it wasn't their first choice, they made it work for them and I commend them for their patience and absolute resolve to be together as husband and wife. That truly is what it's all about. I have never told a couple you can't have "X" - it's whatever they want to do - but, Yami and Peter did it. No matter what "X" was - they just wanted to be married. Love it!

Diva's

2009-07-26T12:11:00.003-04:00

So you have your four bridesmaids which are supposed to be at your moms house at noon to get dressed. You pre-paid hair and make-up stylists as a gift for them all but nobody shows. So, the calls begin with one question - Where are you? You gave them a schedule and asked them to please be there on time but they are all over the map. One is getting a pedi and decides to stay there for make-up. You can't reach two and are texting like crazy. The last is coming in late because she didn't know she was supposed to be there at 12:00 and made another appointment for 1:00. As a bride you are put in the position of basically - freaking out. People are going to be late and it's affecting your wedding day schedule not to mention your mood. If they are late, you will be late. All I can say is this is unacceptable. You should not feel that your day will be delayed because other people were not listening, forgot or otherwise don't care. Always remember that regardless of how many attendants you have - you are the only Diva today. Don't let selfishness ruin your mood. There needs only be five people at the church - you, your groom, two witnesses and the clergy. All the rest is gravy. So, don't let them stress you. And, believe me, I know that you did the rehearsal and you're thinking how you can have them not be in the wedding but it always works out and they will be there. Just because they are not at the house when they are supposed to be - doesn't mean you are not married at the end of the day.

Mind Your Manners

2009-07-26T11:07:00.015-04:00

So, you are a guest at the reception and it looks like you don't have a place card. It's too hot in the room. The buffet is empty. As a guest, and if any or all of these thing occur - who should you tell? Please tell me it's not the bride, groom or their parents. Obviously, at this moment, the bride would not be changing the thermostat, refreshing the buffet or making you a little card with your name on it. But, so many guests feel that it is OK to point out the flaws during a reception that it makes a couple feel that their guests are not enjoying themselves. If you do decide to complain to any of the people mentioned above about any of these situations, I can put it perspective of what will be the result. So for example, your place card. A bride is coming into the reception lobby fresh from rushing through photos, you tell her there isn't a card for you. She is going to look at you with a horrified look because she knows you are supposed to have one but can't believe she missed your card. She will feel terrible and guilty for not making YOU feel special. She will be trying to think of who she put you with and wondering if you even know the other guests to find them. So, you've now created a task for her to accomplish before she can proceed to what she needs to do - which is get ready for introductions. On to the A/C. Unless they have booked an historic venue with no chance of A/C you're out of luck. But, I can assure you, the A/C is on in a venue throughout the summer and the winter. Venue personnel know that each body that enters the room increases the temperature by one degree. Add alcohol and dancing and you've got a heat wave. Event staff do not try to torture guests, but, the temp can only go down so far. So, you find the groom who is rolling through his college antics, with friends he hasn't seen in years, to tell him it's too hot. He will now leave his friends, go find a waitress (who is trying to get meals out to other guests), to go with him to check the thermostat himself. He will see that it is as low as it can go, shrug his shoulders and tell you "hey, it's on". Again, he's checking the temp when he should be enjoying his reception. And now, The Buffet. You arrive at the buffet after your table number is called - the fourteenth table. There are a couple stream trays that are empty and you are starving. So you take what you can and head back to your table. The bride and groom come to your table to thank you for coming and ask if you are enjoying your meal. "Yes, everything is fantastic" should be your answer but instead it's "yeah, the buffet had nothing in it. The food was gone by the time they called our table". Picture the groom zooming in on the buffet and looking to see who he can strangle over this. He will want to find staff but, he see's the father of the bride first. He tells him to check the food situation and the result is Dad finds the event manager and reams them out because he spent thousands of dollars on this wedding and it's his only daughter and they are ruining it for her and that he wants a credit, etc., etc.. I agree that the buffet should be stocked, and the new, fresh tray may be coming through the door right when you walked back to your table but the Bride and Groom are not the people to discuss this issue with. So, if you are ever attending a wedding - mind your manners. The bride and groom can absolutely accomodate your issues - but it's not their problem. As a planner, producing hundreds of weddings, I can honestly say that these situations come up frequently. I am sure that the A/C issue comes up at every event and the buffet is a timing issue but the place card situation will happen with a harried bride. Each issue is resolvable and not something to get the whole room in an uproar over. But, really, ask the staff and give the couple what they really want - a chance to say YES, we did it and now lets enjoy it.

Dress Nice - OK

2009-07-26T10:53:00.002-04:00

We really have to get people back into the idea that Weddings are more than just a celebration - they are an opportunity to dress to the 9's. My Bride will always look incredible but when guests arrive in sneakers, a loose dress shirt without a tie and baggy dress pants - it bothers me that they didn't make the effort. I produced a wedding last night where the guests were dressed fab! Hair, Make-up, gorgeous cocktail dresses and even some full length gowns. The men were in suits. Not just off the rack suits but Suits - triple layers with incredible ties and shoes that some alligator wishes he had back. That is how you should dress when attending a wedding ceremony & reception. Gone is even the era of attending the church in respectable clothing. Wedding guests have been spotted wearing little more than short shorts, high heels and a cotton tank top. They may be Jimmy Choos and designer duds but really - shorts to a wedding, in the city no less? I could let it slide if it was a beach & barbecue wedding - that would be kinda appropriate but wouldn't be better to buy a pretty sun dress or some linen pants and a lightweight shirt. Let's go people! Let's get dressed again.

I've changed my mind...

2009-07-20T12:19:00.003-04:00

Lot's of times when we go over the plans for a wedding we discuss videographers along with photographers. Many photographers have been creating slideshows that are ready for viewing during the reception which is absolutely great. Because of this fun entertainment feature, many brides decide to hire just the photographer and leave out the video - the slideshow seems to be enough. As a planner, I tend to think of their budget and go along with their decision regardless of what it is. If a bride does want video - there are several companies that use 3 mm film or action cini-film and it looks so much more special than a bland corner mounted shot. I love the modern filmwork that is being produced - no more hours and hours of film to sit through, right?! So, getting to my point of changing my mind. My Mum visited from the Florida Keys to meet her new grandson and she brought us a special treat - her old videos converted to DVD. There was a bunch of different videos merged into one - vacations, family parties, conversations with the lens caps on, etc. But the one that was the most special was her wedding video. The video was taken by her very best friend Joyce. It was shakey, full of Joyces' banter with the person on the other side of the lens, cackled laughs and songs she would personnally sing. But, most importantly, my Father. My Father passed away four years ago from a massive heart attack at age 54. He had retired a short eighteen months prior, selling our family home and moving with my Mum to Florida. They were excited to spend the rest of their days watching sunsets and wearing flip-flops. His passing was a complete shock to us all and made us appreciate the time we all have with each other. Watching him appear on screen, full of life - just being him - crushed me. I hung on every word to hear his voice, watch him walk, touching my mothers back, kissing her and holding her hand. He was everything to our family and it was so special to see him again - as he was. I was thinking about my brides, how they feel on their wedding day, is just the way my mother felt. To lose that love of your life suddenly is heart-wrenching and to have that person - alive again in a way - is a gift that many should not substitute for a photo montage. A bride seeing her husband or a daughter seeing her father on a screen, when you can no longer touch that person, is emotionally priceless. I will now tell my story every time the decision arises - to video or not to video - and let my brides decide. Now, someone please get me a tissue and push play - one more time.

Hair and Make-up Nightmare

2009-07-16T13:06:00.011-04:00

So, you've gotten all the jewels for your neck, wrist and ears laid out on the dresser. Your gown is hanging on the door. Your overnight bag is packed and everything ready to go. Time to sit and wait for your cousin to come by and do you hair. She's a little late because she was grabbing a coffee and bumped into an old friend while waiting in line. So, you call your friend, who is doing your make-up but she's not answering the phone. Fast forward an hour. Your cousin is there trying to set your curls but your hair is so fine they keep falling. Now, she is spraying the heck out of it and its getting slicker and slicker. It's not exactly what you wanted but she took so long - you only have 30 minutes left to get your make-up put on. Your friend pulls out her big plastic make-up bin "that has every shade under the sun - no worries". Too bad, it has every shade that matches her skin tone - not yours. It's Ok, since you are using your own foundation so you go ahead and let her start. Once you are finished up - you run to the bathroom mirror to see how perfect your reflection is. FAIL. The eyebrows she filled in make you look like Groucho Marx, the lip liner is two shades darker than your lipstick and your blush is a loud, silvery pink strip up the side of your face. Time to cry. Yes, I mean it - go ahead and cry. Let's rewind this scenario six months, shall we? When your planner said "who is doing your hair and make-up" you said "oh, my cousin and friend", did she give you a scared look with shocked, raised eyebrows. That should have been your cue to say - I need a team then, huh? Instead, you said - "I think it's a waste of money. Besides, my cousin did all the girls hair at prom and they looked awesome". Honey, this ain't prom and it's not dress up time - this is your wedding. You NEED a hair and make-up team. Your hair will stay all day and be exactly as you like it because the stylist will be familiar with your hair and what products to use to keep it perfect. Your make-up artist will consult you and use the perfect shades for your coloring. They will also apply it in such a way that the photographers lighting will not wash you out. Not to mention they are working for you. They are going to arrive on time, have their equipment organized and work efficiently to keep you on time. Hair will usually cost between $75 and $150 and make-up is between $75 - $125 and they can travel to you. Some stylists will even come 1/2 way through the reception to do touch ups. So, you should pay the price for a pro and not just pay the price going with the "Prom Night Special". Trust me - I've seen it and it ain't pretty.

Trouble

2009-07-14T12:10:00.002-04:00

I am having a really tough day today!!! I lost my website content but I am working on it - well, they are working on it. I hope it will be solved today!!! I know you all love to search the web for your vendors and check out the pricing so that's what I was updating. That's what I get for giving too much information! HA!

So anyway - bear with me.

The Lookey Loo

2009-06-20T18:00:00.003-04:00

So this year is a bust for weddings since the economy is pushing many couples to the breaking point. They are either extending their engagements another year to save up some extra cash or they are cutting way back in order to get it done this year. Because of these financial cuts, some are saving money by opting for the backyard wedding. But, when it comes to the backyard reception one thing holds true - nobody wants the guests milling around inside looking for the bathroom. Nor, do I need to mention - jamming the septic system. So, what's a girl to do? The obvious choice is the port-o-potty. Ewww, yuck right? Well, yes maybe the big blue box is a bit tacky but when you are on a budget - they work. So let's have a chat about the bathrooms then. You have several options above the blue box. The next level up is the white trailer with the stairs - we're getting a bit better if not pricier. Add in the men's side and you've got luxury without the line, right? Well, recently I went on a site visit to check out Mohegan Sun nightclubs for the baccelor/ette parties. While there, I stopped for lunch and met a great bartender who let me in on he and his partners secret plans for the latest version of the potty. I am thinking - what? plasmas in the trailer - heard of it, more toilets - been there, lights - ooooohhh. So, what's new with the Loo, I wondered. He began to describe a potty that blended into the yard. A shed if you will. I gave him my card and waited to see the result. Well, the results are in ladies and you have never seen anything like this! At least I have not and I have seen a lot of potties. I got the pics today and I will tell you - this is the holy grail of potties. The unassuming exterior, the gorgeous fixtures, the REAL linens and artwork - who'd have thought! So if you need a potty check out www.luxury-loo.com. I have not worked with them YET - but they will be my top potty referral. So, forget about holding it till you get home - this potty looks like you won't have to douse yourself with Purell - or announce your departure with a loud THWACK-ing door. Ahhhh, a privvy privvy.

Fundage

2009-06-17T10:36:00.002-04:00

Today's Brides have come up against some serious issues affecting their wallet. I personally believe this is due to the wedding industry itself. I do love to look at all of the trade mags to see fresh ideas and tips on how to decorate, what to serve, gifts, etc. But, what these mags have done is actually make some brides feel they have to have it all. I find it is unfortunate that so much money is put into elaborate favors, chair covers, monogrammed everything, specialty lighting, etc. When I consult with a bride - I always discuss my top three most important reception services: food, entertainment and cake - in that order. That is where they should put their money first & foremost. I say that because when I work a reception, I like to check in with the guests to see how their evening is going and ask if they are in need of anything. Their most common responses are - "oh no, I am still so full", "Can you get me some new feet! They are killing me from dancing in these shoes" or "Who made that cake - it is absolutely gorgeous!" I have never, ever heard a guest say how cute the monogram on the favor was, how nicely the napkin matched the chair cover or how great it was that the flowers didn't obstruct their view across the table. While these touches may be special - if your on a limited budget focus that money on your food, entertainment and the cake. Why is the cake so important you say - well, how many weddings have you been to where guests are crowding the cheese display to take photos of it?

When it rains...

2009-06-16T15:58:00.003-04:00

As a planner, one of the questions I always ask when I meet a new couple is "what if it rains. Would they roll with it or completely freak out"? I know that most Bride's want a beautiful sunny day for her wedding but in reality rain is frequent duing the prime wedding season between April and October. Because of this, we always come up with a Plan B. When booking an outdoor location for your ceremony, always ask if there is an indoor option and can this option be done at the last minute. If it has been raining most of the morning and stopped an hour before your ceremony - make sure your seating has been out of the rain during that time. Some rental companies drop it off the day or two prior. If it was exposed - it must be dried completely before guests arrive. If you have hired a day of coordinator - they should have the necessary tools on hand to handle this situation. But, even if there is a dry chair - you may have to go without some other elements such as a runner - imagine a muddy mess on a white sheet. If you are able to move the ceremony indoors - will that location fit your guests - seated? Some may have to stand in the back and sides of the room. Depending on the space, your aisle may need to come in from around a corner or even through a side door eliminating a grand entrance. Your floral arrangements may also need to be changed because of the new plan. This is true especially if you ordered the tall garden trellis decorated with greens and blooms. But, even when I hear that they would completely freak out if it rained - I always remind them - at the end of the day, rain or shine, they are still married. Try to remember what the day is about and not what it wasn't. Afterall, an absolutely perfect Wedding day leaves nothing much to talk about in the years to come.

The Receiving Line?

2009-06-15T10:37:00.007-04:00

At most weddings, once I send the Bride down the aisle to greet her Groom, I head outside to chat with the limo driver about the estimated length of the ceremony. This way, they can anticipate when to break out the Champagne and get the AC pumping in the limo. But, oh yeah - there's a receiving line. A receiving line is a great way to thank guests for coming if you are not having a formal reception. This was the norm back in the day when most families would not have elaborate affairs following a church ceremony - usually just cake and punch in the church basement or at the Bride's home. Since then, the receptions have become longer and with less formality and stiffness. It is becoming common for couples to host a cocktail reception, dinner reception, dancing reception and sometimes - the after party. During these receptions, the Bride and Groom are able to socialize with their guests all evening and the function of the receiving line is moot. What's the big deal you say? Well, many couples from the time they wake until the ceremony - are on a strict timeline. So, take for example, a couple may only have thirty minutes tops for photos at the church due to a Mass following their ceremony. If you are late for your ceremony - at all - this will eat into those 30 minutes easily. If you have a receiving line - say goodbye to the photography? I think not! So, save the hugs and kisses for the reception - your photographer will be able to get the photos you are paying for and not to mention - the Grooms boutonnierre stay's hug free!

A Few Words About Aisle Runners

2009-06-15T09:57:00.002-04:00

I truly have a few words about aisle runners and none of them are proper to post. So, here comes a rant. I don't care if you have them personally monogrammed, your grandmother stitched it with a piece of her dress in it, the florist suggested it or you bought one from Michaels. Don't waste your time or money. Regardless of the number of pins used to tack it down, it will shift, drag, blow off or catch in some way. Yes, I get, it - the rug is ugly, it has stains or it keeps your heels out of the grass, whatever the reason - just dont. I had a gal get a runner to cover the concrete walkway for her outdoor ceremony. The only way to keep it from blowing away was to tape it down. The tape would not stick to concrete under the runner so they had to tape the edges. I am sure you can imagine how pretty that looked! There are better ways to camo the flooring. You can use freeze dried rose petals to create an aisle or to keep your heels out of the ground - wear wedge heels. I have seen tripping, heels stuck through the runner and dragged and even a pin catch a shoe which tore a four foot strip down the edge. I literally had to run up and step on it to keep it from getting worse. The guests in the rear rows were focused on the bridesmaids and motioning to them to "watch out". Now really - is that what you want? All eyes on you baby - nix the runner.

Megan & Brandin's Wedding

2009-06-15T09:26:00.002-04:00

The sound of bagpipes after a morning rain began my day with Megan and Brandin at the Free Evangelical Church in North Easton yesterday. This Scottish clan was thrilled to have received the bagpiper, Scott Fletcher, (as a surprise gift) to greet arriving guests. It is always so nice to give a nod to the other familys' heritage. It makes the day that much more touching and special. For me, I was so proud to assist Megan because her sister, Shelby, is my trusty assistant. It felt like I was assisting family! When Megan arrived at the church - I could not believe how absolutely perfect she looked. She was one of those girls that looked like she just stepped out of a bridal magazine! The bridesmaids wore soft chiffon gowns in Bahama Breeze (turquoise) and they all looked unbelievable. The groomsmen, stood tall as they escorted the ladies down the aisle to the regal "Highland Cathedral". After a poinant service performed by Rev. Greg Bar and a blessing from Rev. Powell, the party moved on to Independance Harbor in Assonet. I'm still amazed about IH! The staff Captains, Matt & Madeline, are magicians with ESP and everyone there is so accomodating and knowledgable. They really know what they are doing and I would recommend them to any Bride. My Bride and Groom posed for photos on the lush grounds surrounded by Foxglove and Peonies. I hear the owner cares for the grounds himself. Absolutely amazing - absolutely perfect.

The Candy Buffet

2009-06-03T13:25:00.001-04:00

I just wrapped up another wedding this past weekend and had to comment about candy buffets. This was my third "buffet" and had the caterer control this one. The bride purchased a great assortment of the couples favorite candies and had provided great containers. The caterer used risers to make the candy jars different heights to create dimension. It looked fantastic - so what's the problem? People absolutely go berzerko for the candy. They wanted it early, continuously asking my bride where it was - so it was brought out early and devoured in mere minutes. People dove into the candy as if they didnt just eat a three course meal. Another wedding that we prepared last year had coordinating pink and brown candies. there were lollipops, jellybeans, custom M&M's and ribbons. It was lovely. The buffet was set up in a side room for departing guests to take a sweet treat on their way out. Unfortunately, the bar was switched at the last minute to the sweet room for the cocktail hour - and the guests went hog wild on the candy. By the time the bride came to see how it looked - it was a complete mess. People were sitting at their little tables with cocktails, Hors D'Oevres and goodie bags choca-block filled with candies. On both of these occasions - the bride, who worked so hard to find the best stuff to make it look decadent and oh sooo cute, was so upset that they 1. didn't get to see it all put together, 2. felt that there may not have been enough candy so they felt guilty that they didnt do enough to make their guests happy and 3. thought for one second - that all the running around to get all the stuff was a complete waste of their time. So, I get it, you want your guests to see how creative and cute your wedding can be - and probably was - but I guess when guests are fighting over your candy - your buffet was THE bomb and not A bomb. So don't fret over the candy buffet. People love it and it will be gone in 30 seconds. If you want to see the candy all set up - make sure SOMEONE takes a picture - I can assure you it will last longer. Now please hand over the last Atomic Fireball - I love those things!